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Magnate
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At what point does a moderator step in and close a thread out of concern for the original poster's emotional health a welfare?
I speak of threads where it is quite clear that some sort of delusion or psychosis exists. Does it do the OP any service to stand by a watch the hoards offer repeated validation and encouragement for such far fetched and at times what can be harmful thoughts. At what point then does the site simply shut things down and insist the OP get help? I realise we are a community of persons with mental illness. I realise everyone is due their voice. I realise the purpose of this site is to be supportive. But, how supportive are we being when we play into, validate, and encourage what is pretty far fetched and obviously not real? Wouldn't the supportive thing to do be closing the thread and addressing the issue with the OP? Wouldn't the kindest and most supportive thing be to identify for the person a problem exists and make effort to advise them to seek help? And what about the rest of us - those who see the posts for what they are and do in fact realise they are far fetched, unrealistic, and likely a fabric of the imagination made up and otherwise. Do we bite our lips and let the blood run out of not wishing to start something or be offensive? Are we being out of place for raising the very fact that things might not be as they seem? I think it starts with the moderators. I don't think the responsibility should be in the hands of the regular membership. I truly think this ought to be up for discussion and consideration amongst those who operate this site. It is really upsetting to see these things and know the individual is neither being addressed nor getting help. It is also difficult to see the pats on the back, validation, and encouragement for such thinking. It definitely does not help the original poster, it certainly isn't supporting them, and thus can be seen as a detriment. Please then take this under consideration. If you already have guidelines about this, I apologise - but I am not seeing any demonstration of them in fact existing. |
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Thank you for posting this. For me, I don't mind that, even if it's delusion or whatever, that someone is receiving validation, but my concern is when the person is expressing severe hostility toward and even the possibility to do harm to others or themselves. Or I think, as perhaps you were alluding, putting themselves in the way of harm due to the delusion or psychosis or detachment from reality.
I would like to know what the guidelines are and what the site does in response to such individuals. __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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PC is not a form of treatment or intervention. That's very clearly stated. The mods are neither doctors nor psychologists in clinical practice here. They are not here to treat people. It's just a place for people to come and get support and connection. If we don't want to support someone telling tall tales or in the midst of psychosis, we don't have to.
We aren't here to fix people. We can't. We are faceless strangers on a website. The moderators aren't trained or authorized to assess people's mental health here. Same with suicidal ideation, for example. People can post about feeling like they'd rather die but PC is not the place to get an intervention. That does not mean that suicidal folks can't come here for comfort, right? You mentioned psychosis, Wishful Thinker. If someone is truly psychotic, they don't know so. And intervention only works if a person actually sees a need for it. Though PC is also not a place of intervention. |
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Its funny because that is exactly what the USA Democrats (and much of the rest of the world) have been saying for the past 2 and a half years.
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I have felt this way about the specific self harm threads that talk about methods. I avoid them but when I used to be unwell I would look at stuff on the net to get ideas.
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I understand validating someone's emotional pain and suffering, but this shouldn't be happening in such cases as I have described. This is why it is absolutely essential it be nipped in the bud early on. I believe that is in fact a responsibility of a moderator and that is what they sign on to do. |
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How do you know that a faceless stranger is "a very real risk to themselves and others?" Some people might post suicidal messages for attention. Sure, they aren't healthy if that's how they want to get attention but you could only know if they're actually about to end their life if you were right there in person with them. And you are not. You don't know who they are or what their life looks like. Similarly, how do you know they are about to harm others in the offline world? Someone could post angry messages and not have any intention of harming someone. If the messages are actually abusive/violating the rules, the mods will step in after a report. That's all they can do. They don't track people down and place handcuffs on them. If you really feel this way, then I wonder why you are a member on an online forum for folks living with mental health problems? By the very nature of the medium, the mods and DocJohn cannot do what you are suggesting. They cannot be PIs or cops and show up at people's homes....file for orders of protection etc. We are not here to "fix" or "correct" other people's lives. None of us. If that is what you feel the goal of PC is, then you are probably going to feel miserable here. It sounds like perhaps you already are miserable here. Are you? We aren't cops or judges or family members here. We can read messages and reply or not. If a post seems offensive or abusive, we can flag it for the mods. And that's it. I think you need to be realistic about the online medium and its limitations. You sound like you may be jumping to conclusions about other people's lives based on their posts. A person could make up a tall tale right now which could suggest that something terrible is about to happen to them.....it may be anxiety-provoking for someone reading the tall tale but that doesn't make it true. There's no way to know on a faceless online forum. Similarly, if something terrible is about to happen to someone, they need to call the police for offline, tangible help. If someone were pointing a gun at me, I wouldn't be hoping to log on to PC for help. How on earth would that be the responsibility of a moderator or DocJohn when they don't even know who the person is or where they live? It sounds like you might feel more comfortable with an in-person support group....face to face interactions and non-verbal cues etc. I think it's a cognitive leap to assume that because you don't feel comfortable with the online forum then it must be wrong. Being able to come to PC has helped me during a really difficult time in my life. I've met countless others here who say it helps them too. If it doesn't help you and makes you feel angry or miserable, why not leave rather than slamming it? What you are proposing cannot be done online. That's reality. |
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I realise one needs to tread carefully in such matters. I repeat, however, that validating pats on the back are not the answer. We absolutely should never then encourage the individual other than to urge them to get help. I don't think it a great effort for a thread to be closed - with full explanation of course - and the OP reached out to. |
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I mean, we're all anonymous IP addresses, there isn't much PC moderators can do besides put the person on moderation to check their posts before they post. Again, I think it goes back to being responsible for our own community and reporting things that we see and not just assuming a moderator sees it. They don't have time to read every thread. They rely on us raising things up to them to check out. Seesaw __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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Dictionary definition: Involuntarily celibate, or "can't get laid." But that's something of a misnomer. They very well could get laid if they would learn to recognize and address their own failings instead of blaming others, but that's a discussion for another time.
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Wishful Thinker, please don’t go anywhere. I like you and I like that you bring up issues of concern and relevance about what goes on here. I see no harm in that at all. I think it’s healthy.
I’ve wondered from time to time myself about what’s happened to posters who are obviously out there in cloud coockoo land. Although I’ve never asked, I’ve certainly wondered, how in heck is THIS handled??? I guess the way those posts are handled is to just ignore them with the idea that we don’t even know if they’re real or made up, but still..... ♥️🥀 |
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You know, it seems like this post was a question for either moderators or DocJohn to elaborate on how they handle things. So maybe that's who we should let answer?
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Agreed! It seems more appropriate that an Admin explains and/or elaborates on the guidelines and roles and fills in any of the grey areas rather than members themselves.
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The main point is that it is not a nice thing to suggest that PC may be the wrong place for the OP. She asked an earnest question, she has an earnest concern and we as a community are meant to support her in that.
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And I am earnestly going to end this argument with you Golden Eve. I wish you peace and a lovely weekend.
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SilverTrees, there is no argument. I am simply pointing out that we as a community are here to support one another. Your post suggested that she leave, which is not supportive, and I was pointing that out.
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Again, I am willing to wait to hear the thoughts of the administration on these issues. __________________ What if I fall? Oh, my dear, but what if you fly? Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia. Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less... |
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