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Old Dec 13, 2023, 02:13 PM
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find the option to turn hugs and thanks on and off? Just curious.
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Old Dec 13, 2023, 02:15 PM
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I didn’t know there are hugs and thanks?
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Old Dec 13, 2023, 03:11 PM
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Is that even an option I’m not aware of it existing.
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Old Dec 13, 2023, 05:15 PM
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Do you mean giving them, or showing them?
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 02:59 AM
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Oh I dunno. Please disregard.
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 08:32 AM
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There is no option to turn off thanks and hugs.

If you're accessing our forums via the Tapatalk app, you do not see these thanks and hugs reactions.
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 12:39 PM
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Thanks for me isn’t a bad thing because I’m sometimes in need of comfort and I don’t mind giving thanks How do I.... Some people just need a hug or something good for their day. Thank ya there are people who respect me enough to say thank you How do I....

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Old Dec 14, 2023, 03:09 PM
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There is no hug button on Tapatalk, at least not the free version I use once in awhile. The "thanks" shows up as a heart to click and I see the number of them, such as a heart with a 2 next to it. So that post got 2 thanks, but I don't think I can see who gave them.

If you give a thanks, it appears in another color than thanks from other members.

I haven't used them it in awhile because it's slow and I don't have a strong enough connection to make it load faster.
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 03:11 PM
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Thanks for me isn’t a bad thing because I’m sometimes in need of comfort and I don’t mind giving thanks How do I.... Some people just need a hug or something good for their day. Thank ya there are people who respect me enough to say thank you How do I....

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Double edged sword for me. It's great to see them but very disappointing when nobody gives them on a post similar to what someone else said, but that member got all the hugs and thanks. Honestly I have mixed feelings about it, since I see many posts with many thanks/hugs and others with nothing.
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 05:29 PM
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Double edged sword for me. It's great to see them but very disappointing when nobody gives them on a post similar to what someone else said, but that member got all the hugs and thanks. Honestly I have mixed feelings about it, since I see many posts with many thanks/hugs and others with nothing.
Its pretty much who the member is vs what the post is about even if its similar.

Kinda like in highschool how one person tells a joke and no one laughs and then the cool kid tells the same joke and everyone laughs. It was who was telling the joke. Not the joke itself.

Thats what I think of hugs and thanks
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Old Dec 14, 2023, 05:47 PM
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Sometimes i just hug the first (most recent) post. Its not you, its me being totally thoughtless.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 12:08 PM
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Its pretty much who the member is vs what the post is about even if its similar.

Kinda like in highschool how one person tells a joke and no one laughs and then the cool kid tells the same joke and everyone laughs. It was who was telling the joke. Not the joke itself.

Thats what I think of hugs and thanks
So it IS me then.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 12:47 PM
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 01:08 PM
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Ask, and you shall receive.
It's embarrassing to have to ask for something others get all the time. It's like fishing for a compliment. I don't want them there because I asked, it's not "real" or sincere then. A thread about me in Kudos has no more posts/nice images but other threads do. Post my sobbing emoji there? Then get them?

I know it's not just me as Mountain said, so I'm sure others feel the same. It's like high school again.

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Old Dec 15, 2023, 01:40 PM
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A few years ago, a new poster asked me if i wanted to be hug buddies - the deal was to hug and thank every time the other person posted. I would never have thought of such a deal. It also seemed a little fake to me. Kinda like the online equivalent of never going to bed angry. But i was a neglected child, and she grew up in a much healthier environment. For me, asking for something was asking for trouble, period. But maybe it doesnt have to be that way.

Plus, i was quoting the bible! Are you contradicting the bible? I mean, im an atheist and all kinds of other bad things, but how can you argue with "ask and you shall receive"? Is that allowed?! Youre blowing my mind! It feels like disagreeing with gravity! Or sunshine.

ETA - And i wonder how i end up on the naughty step so often? Im sorry, i dont mean to diminish your feelings. It IS difficult navigating one's way here.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 02:06 PM
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So it IS me then.
For me, it depends whether I'm on my old fart of a phone or not, less and less is working on the old fartphone (not just forum related but apps and stuff as well, so I know its my phone)

I try to hug and thank as much as I can, unless I have a reason to not interact with a particular person.

I would NEVER ignore our Owl though

And here's another hug in case you can use a extra one
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 02:07 PM
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A few years ago, a new poster asked me if i wanted to be hug buddies - the deal was to hug and thank every time the other person posted. I would never have thought of such a deal. It also seemed a little fake to me. Kinda like the online equivalent of never going to bed angry. But i was a neglected child, and she grew up in a much healthier environment. For me, asking for something was asking for trouble, period. But maybe it doesnt have to be that way.

Plus, i was quoting the bible! Are you contradicting the bible? I mean, im an atheist and all kinds of other bad things, but how can you argue with "ask and you shall receive"? Is that allowed?! Youre blowing my mind! It feels like disagreeing with gravity! Or sunshine.

ETA - And i wonder how i end up on the naughty step so often? Im sorry, i dont mean to diminish your feelings. It IS difficult navigating one's way here.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 02:08 PM
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Sometimes i just hug the first (most recent) post. Its not you, its me being totally thoughtless.
it doesn't make you a bad person, forgetting to use the hugs or thanks, luna
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 03:06 PM
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It's embarrassing to have to ask for something others get all the time. It's like fishing for a compliment. I don't want them there because I asked, it's not "real" or sincere then. A thread about me in Kudos has no more posts/nice images but other threads do. Post my sobbing emoji there? Then get them?

I know it's not just me as Mountain said, so I'm sure others feel the same. It's like high school again.

I was mainly reffering to myself. Not you. I rarely get any hugs the way some other members do. And I know its me.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 03:12 PM
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I was mainly reffering to myself. Not you. I rarely get any hugs the way some other members do. And I know its me.
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 03:24 PM
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I honestly don't even notice how many hugs or thanks I get, its not something I personally bother with

I use them for others, I just never notice if my own posts get hugged or thanked
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Old Dec 15, 2023, 03:30 PM
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I honestly don't even notice how many hugs or thanks I get, its not something I personally bother with

I use them for others, I just never notice if my own posts get hugged or thanked
Some of us who didn't get them growing up or in real life, these are the only hugs we get, period. If I view a thread I subscribe to, I can't help seeing them because I see not only the latest replies but my posts as well. They are directly underneath, if they are there at all.

I ALSO am generous with hugs.

I also avoid forums where people can vote a post up/down or helpful/not helpful.
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Old Dec 16, 2023, 01:22 AM
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Sadly, some people complain if they get hugs and thanks, then complain when they dont get hugs and thanks, so its impossible to "win"
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Old Dec 16, 2023, 08:35 AM
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It's embarrassing to have to ask for something others get all the time. It's like fishing for a compliment. I don't want them there because I asked, it's not "real" or sincere then. A thread about me in Kudos has no more posts/nice images but other threads do. Post my sobbing emoji there? Then get them?

I know it's not just me as Mountain said, so I'm sure others feel the same. It's like high school again.

Absolutely.

I never ever had a post about me on kudos thread or things like birthday wishes or anything like that. And I’ve been on this forum for a long time and help a lot of people on here, including spending my time researching things to help people. Yet nothing. Ever. It’s just how it is. Others get constant kudos and congrats. Often same people. Repeatedly

So yeah that’s the thing. It’s not what being said it’s who the posters are. I do get some thank you for my posts but it’s usually from people I know on here, friends.

And yes sometimes there would be 5 posters saying same thing and only one would receive accolades but sometimes they just repeated what others already said.

I think it’s just how it is. We have somebody at work receiving regular public kuddos and congrats and constant applauses for exact same thing several of us are doing and it doesn’t get acknowledged in any special fashion. We can never figure it out at work why is it so. So it’s not just Internet forum
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Old Dec 16, 2023, 08:37 AM
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Sadly, some people complain if they get hugs and thanks, then complain when they dont get hugs and thanks, so its impossible to "win"
Who complains for getting hugs and thanks?
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