[leomama]

Nobody in my life is being supportive right now: family, boyfriend. I'm feeling unloved.

[here today]

I know that feeling. Want to talk about it some more?

[Open Eyes]

I am sorry that is happening to you ((leomama)), I know what that feels like all too well myself. Unfortunately people genuinely don't know how to be supportive, they don't have any first hand experience with how you are challenged. That is why seeing a therapist and finding others who "do" understand that you can vent to helps.

[leomama]

I feel abandoned by my partner and my father . My father has frequently abandoned me. My partner has a personality disorder.

[leomama]

I have seen a therapist for 8 years.

[leomama]

I am in DBT. I don't currently have a therapist . I have a np. I have PTSD with moderate depression and mild anxiety.

[leomama]

I am going to an adult child meeting tonight . Thank you you two for responding .

[here today]

You're welcome. I've found adult child meetings really helpful sometimes. Hope yours was for you.

[leomama]

Wasn't able to go because I got in a huge fight with my partner before hand . I'm just going to chalk today up to the causalities of war.

[brownhare]

I have this issue as well sometimes. But largely it is down to me desperately wanting to offload but holding in due to worry that people who I love and trust just don't know what to do with such a giant skip load of toxic overload. The faces usually do this when I offload. Relief ( I have disclosed) Horror ( at the scale of the disclosure) Pain (because they care so much about me) Confusion (How can they help with this) Awkward hugs and tea (This injury needs expert help that goes way beyond tea and hugs) I see it as walking up to my family and friends holding a severed limb and asking them for help. The reactions would probably be fairly similar. I chose therapy because I couldn't keep the injury hidden but knew my people love me but just have no idea how to go about helping me. I find the tea and hugs work a lot better after a garbage disposal and trust session with my therapist. People can be very loving but also ill equipped to deal with complex trauma, I think it is up to us to find the safest and most well equipped place to dump the toxic load. Therapists never cease to amaze me, HOW DO THEY DO IT? Every day they waste dispose safely for people with terrible trauma. Mine is so kind and makes it so OK for me to dump my pain and rage and anguish and each time I walk away lighter and more childlike and able to laugh and be happy without guilt or care without feeling overwhelmed and resentful.
I'm a lifelong emotion stuffer and Ms over responsible. My therapist has lifted that weight from me & for me that is worth a million bucks in my relationships and general sense of wellbeing. My family have got on board with it too they call it #emptythebin which makes me laugh because I am literally emptying a 43 year old skip full of trauma and held in grief and pain in a place that keeps my house free from it.