[RubyRae]

I am sending out wishes for tomorrow,Fathers Day,for anyone who has been abused in any way by their father.

I understand how hard it can be for many,whether their father is still living or gone.I know how it can stir up old memories,old hurt and pain,anxiety,hypervigilance,anger,etc.,and I hope you make it through the day without too many tears and manage to have a good day,regardless.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

I am sending out wishes for tomorrow,Fathers Day,for anyone who has been abused in any way by their father.

I understand how hard it can be for many,whether their father is still living or gone.I know how it can stir up old memories,old hurt and pain,anxiety,hypervigilance,anger,etc.,and I hope you make it through the day without too many tears and manage to have a good day,regardless.

Don't see that happening but thanks.

[leomama]

well wishes? Abused? I'm gonna go to church and lay low after that. For me, it's our father who art in heaven and to a lesser degree the church. Forget the rest.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by leomama

Forget the rest.

Some of us are just not able to forget.

I plan on making the best of this day.One mistake I already made today was logging into Facebook and seeing all the heartfelt Fathers Day wishes people are posting.

Today's a hard day for many,and I must admit it's a hard one for me.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Some of us are just not able to forget.

I plan on making the best of this day.One mistake I already made today was logging into Facebook and seeing all the heartfelt Fathers Day wishes people are posting.

Today's a hard day for many,and I must admit it's a hard one for me.

then don't forget and live anyway.

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by leomama

then don't forget and live anyway.

Unless I'm misinterpreting your posts,you make it sound as if I have a choice whether I forget or not.I wish it was that simple,I wish I had a choice in the matter.

Fathers Day is triggering for me for a few different reasons.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Unless I'm misinterpreting your posts,you make it sound as if I have a choice whether I forget or not.I wish it was that simple,I wish I had a choice in the matter.


Fathers Day is triggering for me for a few different reasons.

as I said then don't forget and live and let live. Ignore it. That works too. Unplug. Detach.

[RubyRae]

No,actually ignoring ,unplugging or detaching doesn't work.PTSD doesn't work that way unfortunately.

I'm affected by this day but managing the best I can.

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

No,actually ignoring ,unplugging or detaching doesn't work.PTSD doesn't work that way unfortunately.

I'm affected by this day but managing the best I can.

Handle how you feel comfortable. People deal with things differently and you need to deal with it how you feel safe and manage the symptoms. The tv has been a big trigger for me with all the father's day adds. One day at a time, baby steps.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

No,actually ignoring ,unplugging or detaching doesn't work.PTSD doesn't work that way unfortunately.

I'm affected by this day but managing the best I can.

I noticed on both of your posts that you're very strong in your opinion. You do realize that other experiences are real don't you?

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Some of us are just not able to forget.

I plan on making the best of this day.One mistake I already made today was logging into Facebook and seeing all the heartfelt Fathers Day wishes people are posting.

Today's a hard day for many,and I must admit it's a hard one for me.

Stay away from social media until you are ready for that deluge of comments about Father's Day. Thanks for the well wishes for others. There can be so many reasons this day is hard for people.

Dr. Jonice Webb just posted this article about Father's Day

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/child...h-your-father/

[RubyRae]

Originally Posted by Trace14

Stay away from social media until you are ready for that deluge of comments about Father's Day. Thanks for the well wishes for others. There can be so many reasons this day is hard for people.

Dr. Jonice Webb just posted this article about Father's Day

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/child...h-your-father/

Yeah,I made the mistake of going on Facebook today,but I think I will avoid it for a couple of days,today was everyone talking about their great,awesome dads and tomorrow will be pictures of what they all did today.I'm going to wait until that all dies down.

Thanks for sharing the article...

[Trace14]

Originally Posted by RubyRae

Yeah,I made the mistake of going on Facebook today,but I think I will avoid it for a couple of days,today was everyone talking about their great,awesome dads and tomorrow will be pictures of what they all did today.I'm going to wait until that all dies down.

Thanks for sharing the article...

Sure, I think that's a smart thing to do. It serves no purpose to put yourself in that situation to watch things that would trigger you.
Thank goodness the parent holidays are over now.

[reb569]

I totally understand how father's day and all the posts, ads and special dinners can be very triggering. It is also a rough day for me. Thanks for the well wishes and .