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I myself have Complex PTSD from being abused by my parents and community. I have reason to believe at least one of my parents may have also suffered some form of PTSD from an event in their life. I was wondering if anyone knew if there was information about the children of people who inflict their PTSD on them. I know a lot of child abuse comes from narcissistic parents, but I don't think either of my parents were narcissists - their behavior doesn't match up to the symptoms.
Does anyone here know of any articles, etc. regarding the effects of PTSD-afflicted parents willingly abusing their children? |
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Google on 'continuing the cycle' or things like that.. you might find something.
Also, you can use Google Search but Google Scholar will get you higher-level articles. |
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Here is a link to an article from PsychCentral's archives that may be of interest:
https://psychcentral.com/news/2013/0...ild/59140.html __________________ "I may be older but I am not wise / I'm still a child's grown-up disguise / and I never can tell you what you want to know / You will find out as you go." (from: "A Nightengale's Lullaby" - Julie Last) |
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I'm not sure if you where able to view Skeezyks link or not. Here is the content: Quote:
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It would be and should be the same treatment used for anyone else with PTSD.I also grew up with abuse,extreme abuse,and although I did talk about my parents,whatever mental illnesses they had nothing to do with the type of treatment I received. Can you explain why it supposedly matters concerning whether psychologists can help you or not? BTW,my father had untreated,unmanaged PTSD,but that was probably the least of his problems. |
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I don't know any specific links but there is plenty of research and information about the struggles and continuation of abuse through multiple generations when parents have trauma histories. It is a very common thing. There have been studies on epigenetics and studies on attachment trauma from parents who have attachment failure... so much info out there. I would say that parents with a history of trauma / PTSD continuing the cycle because of poor parenting skills is the rule rather than the exception.
My own parents weren't narcissists but both of them were both very damaged because of their own childhood abuse. This is a very common thing. |
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I believe my mom has PTSD, as did her mom. It wasn't diagnosed in the general population back then, and it was called shell shock with veterans. I have never heard that most of cPTSD comes from Narcissistic parents. Are there that many people professionally diagnosed with it to come to that conclusion?
I read several books on parenting when I had my son, and it helped a great deal. I tried my best to not pass on the abuse, and I didn't. |
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((TheUrOther)),
Please know it isn't just you. This is something that is being heavily studied and they are learning more and more as they continue to study PTSD and how it affects the brain in the sufferer and what kind of treatment improves the person's challenges with it. It is known that a child's experiences growing up can have life long affects on them. It is known that a child can experience life long challenges if that child grows up with an alcoholic parent or parents. This is something I myself experienced as my father was a binge alcoholic. Also my father was a WWII war veteran and he never really got over all the things he experienced during his time spent during that war. My father joined the services when he was barely 17 years old, he was really still immature to be exposed to a lot of the things he was exposed to. He often had said that he had not expected to live as long as he did (he just passed away nearing age 93). Also, his father was also a war veteran that participated in both WWI and WWII, and his father was an alcoholic and a mean drunk. His mother ended up running away when my father was only about 12 years old and he really NEVER got over his mother abandoning him like that. For years he did not know if she was even alive or not and there was gossip going around that people had thought his father murdered his mother too. My father's history affected the way he treated my mother, he was very controlling with her and he tended to say things to her that had a bad affect on her self esteem. It was very hard to witness the way he treated my mother growing up. Not a healthy thing for a young girl to witness and try to understand why daddy is so critical and mean to mommy. I also suffer from complex PTSD, I have slowly learned in therapy and by doing a lot of reading on my own that because of my history I was very susceptible to developing PTSD if something traumatic enough happened to me. Actually, when I finally shared my history with my therapist who was a trauma specialist, he was amazed at how resiliant I had been considering how many traumas I had suffered not only in my childhood but during my teens and young adulthood. However, I did not neglect my child, instead I was very nurturing and loving and without realizing it, I wanted to make sure my own child did not have any of the experiences I had when I was little. I did not allow any hitting or abuse in my own home. I made it a point to read to her and talk to her and I wanted her to feel "safe' to talk to me about anything that bothered her. Unfortunately, one of her challenges was how her piers often did not have the same kind of parenting so she struggled to understand how her piers were often mean and some were bullies too. Sometimes it's hard to prepare a child for what to expect from their piers even though you try very hard so your child feels loved and safe. When things got bad was when I suffered a lot of loss that overwhelmed me and I developed PTSD. I had no idea why I was struggling so badly and it did scare my daughter and I still feel horrible about that and she was about 24 when that happened and she just did not understand it, and I could not help with that because I did not understand it myself. The important thing to remember is that no one CHOOSES to develop PTSD. And yes, it is easy to believe that a lot of parents suffered from it not even realizing it too. Actually, what has been discovered is that a lot of individuals who become alcoholics actually are also suffering from PTSD. They don't even realize they are using the alcohol to deaden that challenges they are suffering due to their PTSD. It is important to remember that it was not too long ago that drinking alcohol was considered pretty normal and lots of businessmen engaged in conducting business with what was called "martini lunches" or that it was normal to come home from work and sit and have a few beers or drinks too. Actually I am 62 and I do know that in my own generation it was considered normal and ok to drink more and have alcohol at gatherings, even provide alcohol when parents got together for child birthday parties. I saw that happen a lot actually and my own business certainly exposed me to more child birthday parties than I can count now. We really are just learning how a person's childhood affects them for the rest of their lives. |
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That seems to be worse; I don't want anyone else to have to suffer this at the hands of humankind.
We can send a person to the moon, but have no idea how to keep a child safe and healthy. Nice priorities, mankind. |
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Well, a lot of people "do" suffer from PTSD. I suffer from it myself and I do know how difficult it can be. I am sorry you are struggling. As I mentioned in your other thread, it may help if you can move away from the area you live in. There are states where people are friendlier.
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Well, it's true in that it's very common for human beings to form social gestalts where certain conformities are expected and enforced. We tend to be a bit of a tribal species it's evident throughout human history. That being said, being different doesn't always mean rejection, often being different can become a fad, something people can be drawn to where they want to follow. Human beings can be very maleable. This is why "different" can be a threat to those who prefer an older generational norm.
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Have you ever listened to this? Just posting it for you to check out, may help or not. Ill leave that up to you to decide.
Childhood PTSD and Getting Triggered: How Can You Feel Safe? - The Crappy Childhood Fairy |
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Simply put, the video isn't relevant to my situation. Thank you anyway. EDIT: After more reading, it's clear she's selling a good or service. I'd advise being skeptical. Last edited by TheUrOther; Mar 14, 2019 at 01:44 PM.. |
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What kind of therapy do you see helping you? Just curious
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