#whats the worst thing someone told you?

it is nice to know I'm apreciated.

(((((hugs)))))

Well, there have been so many, and I'm pretty sure there's many more to come, so it's difficult to say which one is the absolute worst, but ...

This one is definitely in the top three:

A man I was once worked for told me that I must have been a really bad person in a past life to have all these evil things befall me in the current one!

Last night I watched the Story of Steve Irwen. Seeing how good that family was, and still is. It upset me so bad because my family was, and still is so rotten, and I resented that I didn't get any of that, even to this day. I asked, what did I do wrong, to have such turmoil through my whole life. I never thought I was a bad person. I was in my bedroom, by my self, and cried my eyes out. I haven't ever cried about my disfunctional family before, but after seeing how most normal family's are towards each other, I felt so hurt. I know this is about things said to us, but I felt I needed to share because I never realized how life could have been, and how much I had lost. I know it is suppose to make me stronger, but it never did.

I just want to document this:
This is Mom. Do you want to talk? You were supposed to call me and you didn’t.

That’s because R relayed that you told him I could call you, but never bring up anything from the past again.

Well, he said that kind of harsh, but yes, that’s what I said.

So, I didn’t call.

Well you have to let this go.

I don’t even understand why you are mad at me.

You still insist on talking about it? I’ll move on after all those horrible things you said to me, “F you and this whole family. Don’t ever call me again.”

Unless I am really losing my mind, that never happened.

Even dad heard you say it.

Put him on the phone too.

Dad— No, I won’t talk about this. Tell her to call back when she’s calmed down and moved on.

I won’t ever move on and now you want to be controlling too about not allowing me to talk about this? I told you last time how hurt I was that you would never pick up the phone and call me. You’ve done it again. It’s been a month and I can keep going forever. We don’t have to ever talk again. The cruelty in this family is ridiculous. I’ve been crying over this for a month. I know how little I mean to all of you!

Mom— how can you be so selfish? Why don’t you think about how upsetting this is for others?

Me— don’t you dare turn it around on me!

Mom— Call back when you grow up!

Me— don’t you dare F’n berate me!

Click.

Retarded!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Another thing I remember is, I had my own room and I had a blackboard where I could write things down. One day as a teenager when I was very upset I tried to write my feelings down on the board. My mother came in and read over them, turned to me, and said (with tremendous indifference): "You goin' crazy or something?"

What people say to me is never relevant, I can easily let opinions roll off my back. It's what I tell myself that can be both horrible and terrifying.

I suppose you can only take offense if what a person says is true. For example if someone says to me I'm ugly, fat or stupid. Well I know I'm none of those things however if I was to tell myself those things then I'd have issues.

Maybe when I was much younger opinions of others would bother me. After the age of 30 I just didn't care anymore. 😊😊😁

That it's all in my head.
'i'm a good father, its all in your head'-Dad

'I never did that, your imagining things'-Mom

"When we learned that you were mentally ill, we grieved as if you had died."

- Lefty's ma (1938-2006) circa 1998

A therapist once told me that he could not understand how I was still alive after all that I'd lived through. He said that I'd survived without becoming an alcoholic, drug addict or a sex addict so there was nothing for him to treat.

I got so angry at you parents when I read your post, Lefty.

I was abused by my father because he thought I was gay as a child. When I wasn't. Long story...

At my wedding he said to my wife "I'm just glad he's not gay!"
After everything he had done to me, how could he say that on my wedding day?

you have friends?!

She was genuinely shocked.

"You're a mental case!"

The ABSOLUTE WORST is ...

(((((Pfrog)))))

Here’s another goodie— I told my sister I had PTSD (diagnosed by a doctor) it goes back to Mom screaming at me at the dinner table. (Which she witnessed many, many times.) She said ( this was a text), “Do you expect me to agree with that?”

My mom ran over a nest of rabbits she put them back. The mom never came. I bottle fed 6 baby rabbits for two weeks. They take forever to drink out of a bottle. It took an hour and a half twice a day. My mom but them on the porch in 90 degree weather. They all died but one. I was crying holding the only one left and my stepdad pulled up and told my mom I probably killed the rabbits. Hurts me to this day and that was 20 years ago.

Unbelievable. I must say I'm glad she didn't, Ms. Vortex.

When you say you struggle with ptsd and it is used against you so the other person can get the control THEY want and blame things on you as though ptsd means it's really your fault and not theirs when it IS their fault.

When I was going through the toughest time of my life, I longed for a life-partner to help me get through, because I saw how other people in my situation had partners to help them get through.

One person said;

"No one wants someone who is needy."

Another person said;

"You have all those problems and you want to tell someone to come into your miserable life and join you in your misery."

That's so unprofessional of him.

"do you want to embarrass your family?"

"why do you act so messed up."

My last living sibling blackmailed me into not outing my rapist brother, because ‘he would surely take his own life within the hour’. What about my life?!