#whats the worst thing someone told you?

Purple Heart · Dec 21, 2019 at 11:37 PM

At the beginning of the decade I attended a service that specialised in helping people who were victims of sexual assault. I went there for many years telling the therapist of flashbacks I started having related to childhood sexual abuse.

Oneday I rang this therapist for support and told him I'm still having flashbacks, he replied by saying, 'you're creating memories!'

I felt shocked and totally invalidated, more so since I had confided in him about very detailed sexual-related flashbacks. Later I saw his colleague who questioned the validity of my flashbacks and often looked at me with a critical/doubtful facial expression when I told her my truth about my childhood.

I left that service re-traumatised and will never go back there again. Totally disgusted because these are the last people you would expect NOT to believe a survivor's story!

PH

KD1980 · Dec 23, 2019 at 10:41 AM

I'm so sorry for everyone here. You all deserve so much better.

Amethyst_Stargazer · Dec 23, 2019 at 04:54 PM

My ex boyfriend told me that nobody could possibly love me or want to be with me. Anytime I mentioned friends, he acted as if he was shocked and made fun of me.

Once he thought I made them up, because he couldn't believe anyone actually wanting to be my friend. It made me feel low about myself.

He did this so often that I began having low self esteem because he would always put me down and tell me that nobody can deal with me and how crazy I was.... when in fact he was being abusive towards me. When I cried about it, he would get mad at me and threatened to break up with me because I was being emotional and nuts. So I ended up crying once I got home, because he would get angry at me if I showed any type of emotion....

Marylin · Dec 23, 2019 at 05:01 PM

Around 2010 my neighbour said she was going to drive me out of the neighbourhood,her husband found out I suffered with mental illness,he told me,'we don,'t want people like you in the world with us!'It made me feel like a worthless person.

Purple Heart · Dec 24, 2019 at 12:42 AM

Hugs Marylin

Some people are very ignorant and unfortunately mental illness is still stigmatised. It was almost like you were treated like you had leprosy as though they were afraid your mental illness could be contagious. Anyway I hope you don't have an encounter like that again, Merry Christmas.

PH

TishaBuv · Dec 27, 2019 at 08:25 PM

“We aren’t really talking. But, in the future, if you ask me a question that directly impacts your plans, I’ll probably answer.”

HALLIEBETH87 · Feb 04, 2020 at 01:10 AM

“You’re a ****ing fat *** big eyed *****”
“If you had a brain you’d be dangerous!”
“I’m only nice to you because I have to be!”

All my life I heard stuff like this until I left my childhood home at this 17

Bill3 · Feb 04, 2020 at 08:56 AM

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Lilfae · Feb 04, 2020 at 09:51 AM

"Can't you just try to be more like....xyz"
"It was so hard and painful for me that you were there at my birthday, it had been so much easier for me if you weren't"
"Do you like pain?!" (with disgust in her voice)

All from my mother

Marylin · Feb 05, 2020 at 11:40 AM

The worst thing someone ever told me,I was mentally ill and in distress,I told my sister I was going to kill myself by throwing myself in front of a car.She told me,'you had better do it this time,don't get yourself picked up by police and taken to hospital and end up back with me cos you know how that always ends up!'.That is what she said,to go ahead and kill myself and make sure I do it cos ending back there with her means she would always make me ill and suicidal and abused until I am so desperate that I attempt to kill myself.Nice sister,eh?

Amyjay · Nov 15, 2020 at 01:00 AM

"Not even your real mother wanted you. She knew you would be disgusting and evil." -all through my childhood
"If you tell anyone [about the sexual abuse] you will get sent back to the place they keep the children nobody wants." -age 3

Both by my abusive adoptive father.

Taylor27 · Nov 29, 2020 at 06:44 PM

Get over it: Friends, family told me this so many times

Que Sera Sera · Nov 29, 2020 at 06:57 PM

my 1st day back to work after my husband had died i was saying something about the step kids and my boss says to me "those arent your kids anymore. their father is dead. they are nothing to you."

SprinkL3 · Oct 17, 2021 at 07:49 AM

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Werewoman · Jan 06, 2021 at 01:00 AM

When I was 19, my mother told me that I lead men on without realizing it.
Wtf? To this day I still don't understand what she meant.

Jan 15, 2021 at 02:42 PM

After being considered, I was told that I'm no Dorothy … was looked over as a munchkin extra and recasted into the Lolipop guild because I could tap dance. I would have much rather been part of the lullaby league but there weren't any males/boys who could step up to the plate.

Marylin · Jan 15, 2021 at 04:12 PM

Some nasty bloke told me I was better off dead,many many years ago when I was emotionally distressed and suicidal.

zapatoes · Jan 20, 2021 at 01:41 AM

“What’s wrong with you, do you have brain damage?”
“Are you lazy or stupid?” (Both statements from former boss, and these statements were said to me when I was in the process of working full time and completing a master’s degree).

Also said to me, “if I was you, I’d be angry right now.” (I’m someone that shuts down unfortunately when someone is chewing me out, well especially, if that someone is my boss). (Now I did write down most of these nasty remarks and reported it to her supervisor).

Marie123 · Jan 20, 2021 at 07:27 AM

People who make verbally abusive remarks have problems and it says nothing about you....and everything about THEM.

Marylin · Jan 24, 2021 at 06:41 PM

They said today uK is going remain in lockdown until September!Horrible thing to say let alone actually mean it!

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KD1980 Member Member Since Nov 2018 Location: Los Angeles Posts: 368 5 1,334 hugs given	Dec 23, 2019 at 10:41 AM #2 I'm so sorry for everyone here. You all deserve so much better.
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Marylin Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2015 Location: England,UK Posts: 3,017 9 863 hugs given	Dec 23, 2019 at 05:01 PM #4 Around 2010 my neighbour said she was going to drive me out of the neighbourhood,her husband found out I suffered with mental illness,he told me,'we don,'t want people like you in the world with us!'It made me feel like a worthless person.
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Purple Heart Member Member Since Jul 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 346 12 66 hugs given	Dec 24, 2019 at 12:42 AM #5 Hugs Marylin Some people are very ignorant and unfortunately mental illness is still stigmatised. It was almost like you were treated like you had leprosy as though they were afraid your mental illness could be contagious. Anyway I hope you don't have an encounter like that again, Merry Christmas. PH
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TishaBuv Legendary Member Since Dec 2014 Location: USA Posts: 10,258 (SuperPoster!) 9 1,879 hugs given	Dec 27, 2019 at 08:25 PM #6 “We aren’t really talking. But, in the future, if you ask me a question that directly impacts your plans, I’ll probably answer.” __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T
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Amyjay Magnate Member Since Mar 2017 Location: Underground Posts: 2,439 7 692 hugs given	Nov 15, 2020 at 01:00 AM #11 "Not even your real mother wanted you. She knew you would be disgusting and evil." -all through my childhood "If you tell anyone [about the sexual abuse] you will get sent back to the place they keep the children nobody wants." -age 3 Both by my abusive adoptive father.
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Taylor27 healing from trauma Member Since Dec 2017 Location: Alberta Posts: 30,425 (SuperPoster!) 6 24.3k hugs given	Nov 29, 2020 at 06:44 PM #12 Get over it: Friends, family told me this so many times
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Que Sera Sera Legendary Member Since Nov 2020 Location: johnson city tn Posts: 11,731 (SuperPoster!) 3 6 hugs given	Nov 29, 2020 at 06:57 PM #13 my 1st day back to work after my husband had died i was saying something about the step kids and my boss says to me "those arent your kids anymore. their father is dead. they are nothing to you."
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SprinkL3 Account Suspended Member Since Oct 2021 Location: DELETED Posts: 2,752 (SuperPoster!) 2 10.9k hugs given	Oct 17, 2021 at 07:49 AM #14 My dad told me the following... "Your soul may belong to Jesus, but your * belongs to me!"
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Werewoman Poohbah Member Since May 2014 Location: Betelgeuse Posts: 1,472 9 1,217 hugs given	Jan 06, 2021 at 01:00 AM #15 When I was 19, my mother told me that I lead men on without realizing it. Wtf? To this day I still don't understand what she meant. __________________ You're only given one little spark of madness. You mustn't lose it. ~ Robin Williams Did you exchange a walk on part in the war for a lead role in a cage? ~ Pink Floyd
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Anonymous41250 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 15, 2021 at 02:42 PM #16 After being considered, I was told that I'm no Dorothy … was looked over as a munchkin extra and recasted into the Lolipop guild because I could tap dance. I would have much rather been part of the lullaby league but there weren't any males/boys who could step up to the plate.
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Marylin Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2015 Location: England,UK Posts: 3,017 9 863 hugs given	Jan 15, 2021 at 04:12 PM #17 Some nasty bloke told me I was better off dead,many many years ago when I was emotionally distressed and suicidal.
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Marie123 Veteran Member Member Since Jan 2011 Posts: 574 13 29 hugs given	Jan 20, 2021 at 07:27 AM #19 People who make verbally abusive remarks have problems and it says nothing about you....and everything about THEM.
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Marylin Grand Magnate Member Since Feb 2015 Location: England,UK Posts: 3,017 9 863 hugs given	Jan 24, 2021 at 06:41 PM #20 They said today uK is going remain in lockdown until September!Horrible thing to say let alone actually mean it!
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