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The four f’s
Fight, flight, freeze, fawn.. I was recently triggered at a “compulsory” social event.... ![]() I can completely relate to this... how many abusive parents reserve their harshest punishments for “talking back” and so ruthlessly extinguish the “fight” response in the child ![]() ![]() ![]() I’m still sometimes surprised by how MANY supposedly “intelligent” people in very “responsible” “jobs” ![]() ![]() ![]() Maybe I’m “just stupid” ![]() ![]() However, unlike when I was 3 years old ![]() ![]() ![]() (Not about anyone on pc) __________________ ![]() |
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![]() ![]() Once extinguished, the fight response is not easily rebuilt. ((((((( ![]() ((((((( Fuzzybear ))))))) __________________ My dog ![]() |
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__________________ Once you are real, you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.... |
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F's.....
I am not sure how we repair from this challenge? Much love to everyone ![]() |
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Grrrrrrrrr...
It sucks being me... If someone else said that about me I wouldn’t like it.. I’m the only person who’s allowed to judge me.. And it wasn’t actually meant in a judgmental sense.. How do we repair ... ![]() “Seeking out the poorer quarters Where the ragged people go” Such a sad song, so much stigma towards those whose PUS fail them so spectacularly... ![]() Why would I have sympathy for those void of empathy or compassion ![]() This bear “pulled herself up by her bootstraps” when completely alone....and was the “success” demanded... for a time.. But who cares about “success” or “failure” .. those judgments bore me ![]() Much love ![]() __________________ ![]() |
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![]() Their venom is poisonous Hurtful and cruel judgements from snakes.... Grrrrrrrrrrr They even convince us that we are the ones attacking ourselves ![]() ![]() Much love to you, your inner cub and inner snake ![]() |
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I am I don't like being me either. I have always - since a young age - wanted to be someone else.
From my earliest days, my personal growth was stymied by my mother. There was a lot of intentional neglect. And, there was also a lot of verbal abuse. She wanted to be the center of my world and did not care about my life at all. I am FROZEN most of the time. And, am full of FEAR and FRUSTRATION. Do you know what is a mystery to me? How to have FUN. |
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#10
Definitely can relate to this. “No” was not a safe response.
__________________ "I think I'm a hypochondriac. I sure hope so, otherwise I'm just about to die." PTSD OCD Anxiety Major Depressive Disorder (Severe & Recurrent) |
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I’m so sorry this was done to you all.
I have enough Fight response in me for the lot of us. ![]() ![]() Yes, they try to convince us they are not at all at fault and it is somehow us. But they are gaslighting! Find strength from within and gravitate to people who lift you and with whom you are on equal ground. __________________ "And don't say it hasn't been a little slice of heaven, 'cause it hasn't!" . About Me--T |
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