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Default May 12, 2024 at 06:02 PM
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I will see tomorrow so don't ruin it by acting as if it doesn't exist today!

Who else struggles with the concept of a future and planning for it?

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Default May 12, 2024 at 07:35 PM
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I try not to even think about the future. I worry enough about today.
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Default May 15, 2024 at 07:47 AM
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I'm scared to death of the future. To me, it just means more loss. I mourn for my past and wish I could go back in time.

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Default May 15, 2024 at 04:52 PM
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I can't even plan for today at this point because "how to survive" changes second by second. I have several things to do tomorrow and I don't even know how to put them in place because everything changes and things pop up last minute and, yeah, I can adapt to that, but if what I "plan" to do tomorrow changes and I never follow through on TOMORROW'S plan, how am I supposed to plan out weeks, months, or longer?

But if I don't, how am I supposed to find a place to live? How am I going to get (and hold down) a job? How do I even stick with the same treatment center for long enough to get help? I haven't even stayed in the same town/city for more than a year in what seems like forever.

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Default May 15, 2024 at 05:02 PM
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My mother often said i was running around like a chicken with my head cut off.

Now, i have tried for the past couple three months to a) get more exercise and b) eat healthier and c) not overspend. I can get anxious about any of those categories, which makes executing them successfully more difficult. So i am checking myself. I.e., putting less energy into getting anxious, and a smidgen more into staying in my head. I think the anxiety is basically slipping into dissociation. I need those car back-seat hand grips to hang onto my life.
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As a homeless, on disability, the chaos in the shelter from living with sociopaths allows me to plan only for the present moment. There are always changes. So, one day at a time.
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As a homeless, on disability, the chaos in the shelter from living with sociopaths allows me to plan only for the present moment. There are always changes. So, one day at a time.
Couch hopping>shelter life

You get to kinda choose who you're with, you can be there during the day, you can bring food and put it in a fridge and cook it and share it, you can chill with your buddies and if you're all down, keep the lights on as late as possible or turn them on if everyone's up before "lights on."

When I was in a shelter I had none of that.

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I can't even plan for today at this point because "how to survive" changes second by second. I have several things to do tomorrow and I don't even know how to put them in place because everything changes and things pop up last minute and, yeah, I can adapt to that, but if what I "plan" to do tomorrow changes and I never follow through on TOMORROW'S plan, how am I supposed to plan out weeks, months, or longer?

But if I don't, how am I supposed to find a place to live? How am I going to get (and hold down) a job? How do I even stick with the same treatment center for long enough to get help? I haven't even stayed in the same town/city for more than a year in what seems like forever.
Can I tell you something? Please...just breath. There's so much going on for you it seems overwhelming. If you have to, take life minute by minute...second by second. I wish I could say something to really help. I do understand cause I overwhelm myself on a constant basis. I wish you could at least feel secure and find a treatment center that you'll stick with. Sorry...I'm babbling..o
I sent you a message, if you get to read it, know that I'm sitting beside you.

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Default May 17, 2024 at 05:37 PM
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When someone develops ptsd they are stuck in hyper vigilant/survival mode and they donít know how to switch it off. Itís not your fault and it can get exhausting.
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