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Old Nov 06, 2012, 04:34 PM
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Just know there are others out there including me that know what you are going through. Hang on to the roller coaster and enjoy the ride as much as you can because the highs are coming back up soon.

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Old Feb 08, 2013, 04:25 AM
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I can so relate to what you are saying and could use some techniques for coping with emotions myself. I too often feel that I respond in a childlike way instead of bringing to a situation the strength and stability of a grown woman. The things that come to mind for me that would be helpful (which I often fail to recognize or put into action at the time) are things like having pre-determined standards for ways in which it is acceptable for others to treat me. Resisting the intrigue of curiosity so that I don't feed an issue and keep it going. Knowing when to stop trying to defend myself, my actions, what I think, etc. Realizing when it is time to let go. Taking responsibility for my own self-preservation. Doing or saying less when someone is signaling that I am too much, too intense, too dramatic, too sensitive, too emotional and accepting that they do not have the ability to relate to, understand or accept certain aspects of who I am. Wanting approval when it is not there to be offered seems to lead to frustration and ultimately creates distance where we are seeking closeness. Being there for ourselves in the way that we want others to be.
Responding to your post has given me food for thought that would be good for me to apply to myself. The vulnerability that steers us to respond in a childlike way to situations probably comes from fragility that has always been a part of us due to life experience. I think it's important to not feel that we have to act in such a way that rejects that part of us. But, at the same time it is a private part of who we are that we need to recognize is not appropriate to bring into most social situations or relationship problems. It is our personal responsibility to find balance in the ways that we communicate with others, while assuring the fragile child in us that we are capable of addressing any situation as the adult we are now. I tend to ramble. Thank you for indulging my thoughts in response to your post.
In many ways the reply given here relates to my realizations of late, as to the acceptance of my emotion/feelings being valid for myself, and no acceptance or validation from others is necessary. Though I must admit, in most cases this is true, but in such as this moment a validation of this kind of is most welcome. I'm most glad to have read such an understanding & well worded description of how I'm coping with the emotion/feelings brought on by the world around me. I have admitted to myself, though this is only a workable scenario for myself, that choices of when and who I interact is very dependant to my sense of well being. Having the statement of "humans are social beings by nature" is of no reference to me , an occasional social encounter is well enough. Having placed myself in activities that have actually put me on a stage in front of an audience was exciting , but the personal relationships with people behind the scenes became unhealthy for me. Many attempts to find social situations to involve myself has sent me packing back to limiting myself to a life on my terms. My emotions are volatile to stress which I struggle with everyday. Reading the words of the quote above ends my struggle of how to say what I realized for myself.
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Old Feb 14, 2013, 08:49 PM
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Thank you! Hopefully this forum helps! ^^
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Old Feb 22, 2013, 12:46 PM
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Hi, Over the past weak i have felt, sad, lonely, dull, lifeless, angry, and stuck

Nice to know a little more
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I feel like no one wants me, that I am a problem and beyond help... that is my anxious mind worrying about what if... the name for this is probably fear of rejection. I tried the use of the compassionate hand and it helps. Thank you.
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Old Apr 09, 2013, 03:06 AM
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Last night, I had such overwhelming feelings of anger towards everyone. I believe that stress has caused this anger, however this anger dissolved into tears. I did feel better after I had a cry though. But today I still feel like crying I think I'm feeling despair. Does anyone have any advice for me?
I wish I had some advice as this is something that is very familiar to me, I seem to be angry some day raging, then tears, happy tears, sad tears, it seems I get so choked to tears I can't even speak. Makes it really hard going to my doctor asking for help.

I sure hope someone has some insight for us.

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Old Apr 28, 2013, 04:36 PM
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I think stress is a big factor in offsetting balance to emotions.Ii find that when I am stressed, my emotions are like a teeter totter. An indication that something is not right and I need to focus on me. I think it will be helpful for everyone to understand the meaning of emotions and what is a "normal"/ "acceptable" threshold of the various kinds of emotions. Do some of us feel more than than others and why?
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Old May 29, 2013, 08:26 AM
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Hello, am dealing not just with depression, I'm dealing also with range (when I'm driving), I get mad for no reason, little things bother me when am around people, then I sart mombling, you know, when you say things, that you don't want to say, but you say them??? I am a mess inside.... I gues am the only one who thinks nobody understand of what am going through. Its painful......... I cry, am craying now... I guess I need help, profesional help....
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Old Jun 05, 2013, 03:31 AM
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oooh yes this is a good forum, I am so out of touch with my emotions, I get angry when i'm hurt, I too get overwhelming emotions and feel like i'm about to explode into tears and don't know why
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Old Jun 08, 2013, 05:07 PM
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I am new to this site, but i beleive i am already in the right place.. thank you
I'm another one trying to cope with emotions...I'm glad I found this site.
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Old Jun 10, 2013, 08:23 PM
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um. what is a good way to cope with emotions? i have alot of them and i lash out, or express them very badly. i dont know how to deal with them.
I hear a lot of people saying to identify your emotions first. You need to do some soul searching to pin point your emotions. I need to do that too.
I don't deal with my emotions too well. I look forward to learning more.

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Old Jun 13, 2013, 12:44 AM
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Hi Drew Angel, emotions can be pretty tricky. You might google "emotional regulation". There are a number of techniques that you can use so that feelings don't feel too overwhelming. Deep breathing is one technique. Put your hand on your stomach and fill your belly up with air slowly and then slowly exhale. If you do that for a couple of minutes, then you will likely start to feel more grounded. Hope this helps!
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Old Jun 19, 2013, 07:31 AM
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When I step away from the present moment, then I become vulnerable to the anxiety of the future and the regrets of the past emerge. I become untangled, comparing my life as it is with what it used to be, which générâtes a lot of frustration. As often as I can, I take a moment to calm my mind by becoming conscious only of my breath, and only then, can I feel the peace of mind.
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Old Jun 21, 2013, 05:38 PM
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When I step away from the present moment, then I become vulnerable to the anxiety of the future and the regrets of the past emerge. I become untangled, comparing my life as it is with what it used to be, which générâtes a lot of frustration. As often as I can, I take a moment to calm my mind by becoming conscious only of my breath, and only then, can I feel the peace of mind.
My anxiety about the future has to do with my daughter going to college and then off to her career. It is not separation but has more to do with did I equip her with enough to be successful.

I get staying in the present provides relief. What I don't get is how to measure the reality of the situation and come to a more informed decision.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 12:33 PM
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thanx doc John!
at the moment i feel like doing the opposite of what i would like.
grocery is about to close & i am doing everything not to dress up and make it on time.
i seem to dislike myself- if not hate
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Old Oct 25, 2013, 10:33 AM
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I have been apathetic for several years. Now that I am coming out of it I mainly feel sad and sometimes anger. Neither one is serving me well but at least I am feeling something.
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Old Oct 28, 2013, 07:00 PM
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I wish I had some advice as this is something that is very familiar to me, I seem to be angry some day raging, then tears, happy tears, sad tears, it seems I get so choked to tears I can't even speak. Makes it really hard going to my doctor asking for help.

I sure hope someone has some insight for us.

barb
This is pretty much how I feel right now also. I've tried to get help before though, I've either been ignored, talked to a therapist and it's really not helped, or it's been too expensive, :/ feel like I keep getting worse.
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Old Oct 30, 2013, 06:49 PM
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DocJohn, Thanks for starting this forum.

Emotions are/were a mystery to me.
Recently found out that my emotions serve a purpose and not something to avoid at all costs. And the cost was my health. (Depression)

I look forward to meeting others and together we can help each other with our emotional life.

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welcome, hope you find what you are looking for.
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Old Oct 30, 2013, 07:21 PM
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I no that there is a way to cope without the medications. The side effects are too much, and now that I have been off them for about five weeks. I feel normal again, it's been close to twelve years since I have felt any kind of hope. I know that if I were still on my meds, I would still be suicidal and depressed. This past year has been the worst. My depression worsened even with medications. They seemed to be getting worse and my paranoia was so bad that I couldn't go anywhere without feeling that I was been judged by everyone I seen. Now, I don't have much paranoia and I feel hopeful about living again. I had made a choice that no matter how bad things got for me in my head, I wouldn't make my daughters live with knowing their mother killed herself. So I continued to suffer every day, because I didn't want to live any more, but I am not selfish enough to make them live with my mistakes. I couldn't put that on my girls. So, I decided that I would suffer through and just keep hoping that it would happen naturally (car accident or something like that). Now, I am glad that nothing did take me from this world.

When I was on my meds, I swore by them. I worked with people with mental illnesses, and always told them to stay on their meds. But, now that I have been off mine and I feel so much better. I have down moods but not like they used to be. I didn't see a future for me of any kind, but now I can see it. There are natural ways to cope with depression and so far it's been working. Knock on wood. Life seems possible now.

I am not suggesting that anyone else should stop their meds, because everyone is different. It kind of happened before I knew it. I was just to busy with packing and moving that I didn't notice the side effects that come when I miss my meds weren't there. My mind cleared up, I can remember what I was doing or saying, I don't feel like I am going to cry all the time.

The symptoms that I have noticed sense I've been off my meds, are this zippy feeling like I'm doing a back flip with my eyes closed and the heart break that I feel for the human race and the selfish path it is taking. I have always felt that there was some purpose for me, a reason that I have survived so much in my forty years. That is my next obstacle finding out why, I feel that I need to make a difference. Anyone else have that........feeling of a higher purpose? Like I am meant to do something important and that's why I have survived what most shouldn't have.
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Old Nov 02, 2013, 08:32 PM
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wow this is something new, really interesting. until lately i only thought that there's only two emotions allowed to be shown, happy and anger, proven wrong but i'll learn. hopefully will learn more in this thread
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Old Nov 07, 2013, 07:24 AM
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I'm very sensitive about emotions. I can get caught up in someone's issue and not realize I'm more emotional than the person who is sharing their feelings.
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Old Nov 20, 2013, 07:22 PM
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I don't know if this will help or not, but if you need to cry more, I think you should do so. If you need help getting this/these sad feelings out, so maybe listen to very sad songs, all you can think of. My fave (but not really) sad song is "Old Shep" (I think that's the name) by Elvis Presley. Listen to the sad songs, lament why you feel sad and cry, cry, cry. Try Pandora.com where you can make your own radio station and request songs and singers, musicians. Think of the times your heart was broken, painful memories, etc. Despair is hard, but it you can perhaps get 'cried out,' maybe you will end up not in despair. Holding in feelings we are afraid of or dread is very harmful. Do not despair, there is/are always hope and love and friendship and beautiful things in this world.
For myself, I cannot cry because of the prescriptions I am taking. Haven't been able to cry for years with one exception: when I've had to put down one of my beloved cats. But not even when my mother died could I cry.
I very much wish I could cry. I know it would help me to feel better.
This is just a suggestion, but may be worth trying, I don't think it can't hurt if you know what your intention is...
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Old Mar 01, 2014, 05:47 PM
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I'm always anxious and depressed and always feel alone. i though my family understood about it but i don't think they do with the comments they make to me lately. I've been cutting recently and I've also been feeling angry with myself and others. I'm not sure why i cut drink and take advantage of meds i don't use or need anymore but i do know it's the way i deal.
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Old Mar 01, 2014, 05:51 PM
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i can very much relate to you my friend. ive used alcohol to numb the pain of my depression so much in the past that i dont know what to feel sometimes when things happen or what emotion i should be feeling or even how to deal with the emotion im having then at the time.
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Lately I've been having trouble coping with emotions. Due to the abuse I went through with my ex boyfriend I have trouble coping. Often times find myself feeling angry and sad a lot of the time. Sometimes I'm also paranoid thinking that everyone is against me.
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