Welcome to Coping with Emotions

I believe if I could feel my emotions, and actually name and address them, deal with them, that I wouldn't be depressed anymore.

Emotions...the ongoing scourge of my life. Too many, too intense, too sensitive, blah blah blah. Like it's up to me to change how you feel about my emotions - I can't help it, it's the way I'm made. Love me or leave me...wait, don't leave me. Now I'm emotional again...see? The ongoing scourge of my life.

Hello, First Time on this support group.
I v struggled w mood swings/depression on Paxil for years,but I feel I need more help....been thru multi-psychiatrists & tried many antidepressants.
Any suggest/support is appreciated

Hey everyone from Savannah Georgia. My name is Stef. I'm a 47 year old woman and am married to my husband of 7 years whom I found out 8 months ago on Nov 13, 2015 had an affair with my 25 year old daughter during her visit to see us from Mississippi with my 7 year old grandson. He's my heart. The emotional, physical affair lasted the summer of 2013 to summer 2014. During 2 visits (summer / Christmas ) and many many private phone calls. My heart is absolutely broken. I really would appreciate anyone who's willing to help with sound advice. I feel so alone. My whole world fell apart that day. I love them both. They say they both love me. My daughter who wasn't raised in an alcoholic environment has become an alcoholic and has been destructive in her decisions and hurt many people who love her. My husband ..that's a very long story. Please anyone. Can we talk?

Thanks doc john "the emoticons". You certainly convey an emotion.

I don't know. If I can help but I grew up with two alcoholic parents and I had a drug problem for a year ten years ago

Emotion is your evaluation about is it good or bad for me, to my advantage or not, is it a threat to my well being or an asset? You can improve your emotional state by questioning the things you tell yourself-is this true and accurate or am I thinking it's awful and I can't stand it when in fact it's only a common much smaller problem that everybody has to go through? AKA thinking rationally and not irrationality. RET therapy. David Burns and others. If you are looking for a total cure and 100 percent end of your discomfort forget it. That's not realistic. Once you have calmed yourself step back and see what might be done to improve things even more.

First off don't destroy yourself. I mean if you think it's all behind you and them then forgive and realize these thing happen in life. But if you feel your mate is likely to repeat this behaviour then get out. I've seen this sort of thing happen several times. We are humans with sex at the root of our being. Sometimes you meet someone and as the chemistry heats up over time you just do it. Then you are locked into a bond. And don't think it can't happen to you. Under the right circumstances it can. So project love into the situation and patience and understanding. He has to grow up and value his marriage. Maybe by now he has. An affair like you describe will always cause mental damage leading to alcoholism or depression and last for some time after the affair is over. It's on the subconscious level and can't be talked away. It's partly because of a great mental conflict that says 'I want to be with my new lover all the time but I can't because of my home life."

Then again divorce may be right because of the threat when your daughter visits. You will always see her but just at a place away from your ex. Then go on and enjoy life while realizing these thing happen and don't drag it around with you endlessly. Don't discuss it with friends.

I always thought I knew my emotions.. Recently I've found- IDK anymore, after a 7 yr relationship- that I thought was of the norm... I find I was mistaken!!

I'm having a very hard time accepting the emotions I am feeling about my youngest child. I have come to the conclusion that he most likely is a sociopath and I have had to cut him out of my life for the time being. I don't know what to feel or how to feel about how I feel. I am so torn and confused about all of this. Everyone says I should seek therapy but I don't have the funds for my current out go of expenses much less adding more to it. Someone please help me.

Keep in mind the fundamental idea of 'awfulizing' that is the used in 'rational emotive psychology and therapy'. It's about when you exaggerate your condition. You say it's terrible, awful, and I can't stand it. And that's irrational. What is rational is that your condition is quite unpleasant and inconvenient but not something you can't stand. Don't we all have sometimes very unpleasant experiences in life? You're no different. It will pass. Until then do what you can to lessen it's effect. Don't sacrifice your own life for one that is beyond your control.

When you start feeling upset stop and say to yourself 'don't exaggerate and awfulize this thing.' Yes it's bad but the only way it can damage my life is when I believe things that are untrue because they are exaggerated. Lot's of books on Rational Emotive Thinking. 'Guide to Rational Living' Albert Ellis or Feeling Good by Burns.

Emotions are very dangerous when there are negative. How can you even turn negative emotions into positive emotions?. Science asserts that the mind is bias.It remembers awful things often than good situations. It is up to you to train your mind to focus on pleasant things. You can pretend all the negative things do not exist.Do something you love so much to overcome ant bad emotion.

IMO emotions are nothing complicated but just a sense of if something is good for me or bad for me-an appraisal, the welfare factor. I'm invited to a cocktail party. Awesome, great fun but wait Gladys will be there and I hate her." Two emotions playing out.

When I feel an unpleasant emotion I might do nothing or I might ask if this is something I need to confront and try to grow from or I might want to look at my own thinking for unrealistic irrational stuff. Things like exaggeration of the importance or telling myself this thing shouldn't be. Then I answer that unpleasant things and people do exist so do what you can with it and move on.

I know some people seem to think emotion is some big mystery as if they don't see the cause as if emotions just pop up from nowhere. That's their opinion also.

I am new to the forum. In August 2017 I was diagnosed with a life-threatening fungus infection in my hip which required two surgeries, the last one in April, 2018. Recovery is progressing although I have to rely on a walker to get around. I have so many feelings of grief, sadness, feeling trapped and stuck and anxiety that are overwhelming at times. I am almost always in pain but cannot take pain meds other than Tylenol. I have support from my family but get very lonely and would like to get support from anyone who might have experienced a similar situation. Before this illness I led an active life that I miss very much. I feel sad when I see people walking around as I have lost the gift of mobility. I do hope to regain it eventually though.

If I am overwhelmed by my emotions I journal. It gets them out and identified. This helps vent them.

I also have issues putting a name to my emotions. When you have been programmed all your life to "being seen not heard", it is a very difficult thing to embrace

I've already been receiving a lot of help from this forum. Thank you!

I can relate to having been programmed all my life to ''being seen not heard''...

Amy time I feel overwhelmed with emotions, I always watch South Park. South Park always makes me laugh in the end and helps me escape from what I am upset about.

Thanks for this being positive all time help to overcome obstacles