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I wasn't sure where to post this ... fits under self-help strategies, but that thread is supposed to be based on an online book. Since it deals with getting out of emotional loops and moving forward, I thought I'd put it here.
It occurred to me that the following generic approach to many of life's problems works quite effectively. I'm going to call it the SAT template - a sort of "Situational Aptitude Test" ![]() S = STOP - interrupt your brooding with a distraction, delay the negative habit, calm your frazzled nerves, get grounded and centered. Relax and clear your mind. A = AFFIRM - affirm what you want out of this situation, the desired result. What do you really need? Leave your fears to one side for a moment. Also affirm yourself - your wants and needs are as important as anyone else's. Be kind to yourself. Affirm others too - they also have rights. Be kind to them also. This is a time to consider outcomes, boundaries, and ways to cooperate. T = THINK - You have intelligence. Use it. HOW can you achieve the desired result? What needs to change, and how can this be done? If the road is uncertain, ask for advice and/or help. SAT is an approach that branches - if you get stuck with relaxing and grounding, for example, you can AFFIRM that need (to relax) and THINK about how to get that need met - maybe by seeking more information, calling a friend for support, trying a new approach. If the THINKing stage causes anxiety, you can SAT again by STOPping the brooding, re-AFFIRMing your outcome, and then re-THINKing whatever aspect of your strategy seems blocked or unclear. This all may seem very obvious, but sometimes the obvious bears repeating. SAT is a way I can remember it. I find that habitually using this approach in a repetitive way clears a lot of things up and reduces emotional blockages. I hope it is useful to you. |
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Thank you Onward2wards for posting these helpful tips.
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Thanks for that!!! ((((Onward)))) That's a really good approach!
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((((((((((((((((ON)))))))))))))))) youre awesome as always!
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