And he's back.

My brother is home. We're back to the great shouting, tantrums, throwing stuff and harassing the cats. My stress level is way up there, and those violent tendencies are coming out again in my frustration. I hate weekdays.

((LittleForgetMeNot)) - I'm sorry you're very stressed out. Where has your brother been. What do the adults in you family do when your brother has outbursts?

My brother was away at our aunt's house for the weekend as one of our cousins was celebrating her 1st birthday. I stayed back home with my Dad to take advantage of the silence.

His outbursts are usually a daily thing. We all usually just tell him to stop and be quiet, cause there really isn't much we can do. Time outs have NEVER worked. He just doesn't understand. He has MID and slight autism, and teaching him rules have been extremely difficult. In public, my Dad usually gives him whatever he wants so he won't scream.. last week he came home with 12 different kinds of chips because that was what my brother wanted at the store For me, I don't really believe in special treatment and I'm a little harder on my brother than my Dad is. This usually puts me at the centre of attention in malls, parking lots, etc. when it's time to go home and I'm dragging him and he's screaming and trying to lay on the floor so he doesn't have to go. What sucks is, though he's only 9, he weights almost 30 pounds more than I do (because of all his chips and sweets that he is aloud to have) so really I can't DO anything and my stress/frustration levels will get so high that I'll end up crying right there.

What does MID stand for? Do your parents have your brother is any special services to help with his outbursts? It must be very hard having a sibling like this. I agree giving him whatever he wants isn't right.

Mild Intellectual Disability

We used to have Child services come over and they helped us get a psych assessment for him and they helped us put him into schools with programs for kids like him. But the outbursts are really something we were left to do on our own. When he was 2-3 he was really bad as we used to live in a home that was exposed to violence constantly, and he picked up on that and would repeat it on me and the cats. Since that time he has severely calmed down, but he's still not at that place where he can be managed if he has an episode.

Your dad should see if child services can get any more help for him. Maybe someone can come daily or a few days a week to help out or work with him. I don't know if they do that but i'd ask. Is there any afterschool groups or programs you can join so that you don't have to be babysitter every day? Your dad would have to figure out something. Maybe then child services would have to send someone over if you weren't there to help. Or maybe DDS. Developmentally Disabled Services. Just trying to figure out how you can get some relief.

My Dad doesn't like child services around. He would preferr to do it himself without their interferance. I think 8 years was enough for him ^^; my brother is getting better with his behaviour as he gets older. he just doens't really respect me as an athority figure, and because my dad lets him get away with quite a bit, he doesn't really respect a lot of people as athority figures.