[yagalada]

I know it sounds so lame and juvenile, because it is, but it's still upsetting me. So, only my mother-in-law and brother-in-law like me. I get along with MIL very well actually. The rest of them though attack me. I've had to block my father in law, my sister in law, my husbands aunt and 2 cousins all on separate occasions for aggressive and abusive comments. My husband has had to do the same, the problem really isnt just with me, they are awful to him IRL as well.

So, yesterday one cousin accuses me of talking about her, (i wasnt, I dont even know her, and I suspect her to be just as crazy as I am, but without any coping skills or proper psych treatment) Apparently the block feature didnt work immediately so I was still sent a barrage of f-bomb laden messages. I reported all of it, tried blocking her again but its not stopping.

I dont want to deactivate my account, because I have people that I enjoy connecting with. I lived all around the country so its nice to keep up with people who arent local.

This whole mess and my in laws in general trigger me badly and i'm fighting urges to injure myself. it sucks. i dont know what to do.

[Kymaro]

Other then blocking them, the only next choice would be to change your profile. I would send a private message to all those you wish to stay in contact with and let them know you are changing profiles. Lots of people change profile, no reason to let them know why. Sucks family has to be that way - but the best response you can go is "Hit the ignore button" dont give the satifaction of responding it just eggs them on. Some people just get a thrill out of making others feel bad. Gee's wish I could go around and slap them all across the face.

[ladyjrnlist]

Jeez. What a mess. I agree, change your account and tell your friends.

[Nola22]

I absolutely agree with the previous posters--change your account. You have to protect yourself from these people. It's ridiculous how folks can warp what's supposed to be a fun interactive tool (at least on the surface) and turn it into a means of spewing vitriol.

Sorry you're going through this and your husband's family is so crass and insensitive. All the best to you.

[pgrundy]

I had to deactivate my FB account and start over with a different email address too. On the second account, I only invited a few people I like to connect with. When other people send me friend requests now I decline or ignore them.

It may seem harsh, but I had other issues with FB similar to yours. Not in-laws, but other negativity issues so I just started over with firmer boundaries.

You absolutely have the right to set boundaries for yourself, even on FB!

Good luck!

[mgran]

Sorry to hear you're going through that. I'm glad you reported it... don't know what facebook does in these cases, but hopefully they'll get onto it eventually.

I'd change my profile in your position. I've already done that with my own account, and sent the info to my real friends, and things have been fine since.

[yagalada]

Thanks everyone. I was finally able to get the rest of my in-laws blocked, reported the messages and sent some of them to facebook admin. This really should be the end of it, none of them can contact me or my husband.

[Michah]

Goodness me, dear one! That sounds awful. They lack manners, maturity and basic etiquette.

I am glad that you were able to remove yourself from this dark sphere of negativity and hatred.......now you can get on with the joyful things

You are too loved to put up with their bullhalacky......

Take good care,

Michah