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Unhappy Mar 23, 2011 at 05:53 PM
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meh, an intriguing title because I felt like it... and because I have good reason to believe it's my people-pleasing tendencies that have me in a really low mood today.

Last week went like this: Monday I explored an art college and had a lot of fun. Tuesday I went to an art museum as a date and explored the city. Again, a lot of fun. However I ended up spending Tuesday night at my date's house because it was too late to go home. However I made the mistake for forgetting to tell my mother that I would be coming home in the morning.

This happens on occasion anyway. However.. About 5 or so days before this my mother was told that for 2 weeks I have been going to Therapy and taking anti-depressants without her knowledge. I did this for myself because it was my problem that I wanted to work through on my own.

Back to me coming home wednesday morning. We got into a heavy argument that ended up in me getting slapped and then fleeing from the house. I spent an hour walking to a friend's house. I often walk off big fights, however I don't often have a friend that lives close enough.

Yesterday my mom told me that if I didn't get off of the anti-depressants, she would send me to rehab.... I don't think that's allowed seeing as I'm not addicted to the lexapro.

Also I know that mom does not like my girlfriend. She also believes that I'm on lexapro because I'm dating this particular person.

So I'm feeling like crap right now because my mom's unhappy with me, doesn't approve of my relationship choice... and here I was thinking I was doing something right for myself on both accounts: my girlfriend and the therapy/lexapro.
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Default Mar 24, 2011 at 03:40 AM
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Slapping a nineteen year old? Are you not an adult in your state? How sad this is happening.
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Default Mar 24, 2011 at 09:46 AM
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How did that come about? It sounds like not a whole lot of positive communication goes on between you and your mother. Can you live with someone else?

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Default Mar 24, 2011 at 11:10 AM
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i agree. how bout moving out? can u do this?
as for your mom not understanding about this family of drugs-antidepressants-only makes it worse. doesn't sound like she's receptive to learning about them either. no, she can't put you in rehab. 1-you're an adult 2. you're right, this is not an addiction and doesn't pre-qualify you for treatment.
congrats for your taking a positive measure to help yourself. the doc wouldn't have prescribed it unless he felt it would help you.

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Default Mar 24, 2011 at 10:30 PM
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How dare she do that to you!!! She's treating you like a little kid, and you're NOT. She cannot put you in rehab and she CANNOT make you get off the antidepressants. I hope you do NOT quit taking it because you're on it for a good reason. Don't let your mother win this battle too. Stand up for yourself and insist you know what's best for YOU.

If it's at all possible, try to find a place to move into. Living at home with Mom seems to be very toxic right now. You need someone who is supportive of you, and Mom certainly isn't. And you certainly don't need arguments like this anymore. If you cannot find another place to live, just stay clear of Mom as much as possible. But continue with your therapy & medication -- and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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Default Mar 25, 2011 at 12:02 AM
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I appreciate all of the care in your guys' responses.

In regards to moving out and her slapping me, this is the first time she has hit me in many years. She certainly is not abusive, please trust in knowing that I do know the healthy boundary in that. For I have experienced abusive people and relationships, even mildly abusive. I certainly could move out into my grandmother's house or into the house of at least three different friends.

Also, even though I'm an adult, living under her house I am still a 'child' as she's still taking care of me and I don't have a job yet. But i know my rights, if things get out of hand I will get out of the situation and talk to people for certain.

My mom and I have had a conversation recently, where she expressed that she did not like the anti-depressants because she feels like it's lowering my cognative abilities. I feel that she's come to this belief only because I've been interacting with the family more and being my true self. I am a naturally flighty and ditsy person, she gets irritated dealing with people like me. So I think she's more than glad to blame it on a foreign factor.

I talked to my T and we've agreed to extend my sessions for a period... I've always planned to wean myself out of anti-depressants once I've proven to be able to properly use my coping skills, also I do have situational and episodic depression. So we're going to talk to the pdoc and see if she thinks I would be ready to begin weaning. Then I could supplement with vitamin B-12, as I may actually have more issues with depression from a B-12 deficiency...

Again, thank you all for your support and kindness, it has put a smile on my face today.
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