[Laura88]

The truth is i'm hurt. My friends (what few i have) take advanage of me. The only time they call is when they need something and leave it to me to be there for them. I give so much to all who is around me and get nothing in return. Why is that??? Is it my fault for letting them do this to me? Does anyone ever call just to say how is ur day? For me the anwser is a sad no. I feel like if i had nothing to give there would be no calls. What should i do.????

[FloatLikeAButterfly]

Originally Posted by Laura Applegate

The truth is i'm hurt. My friends (what few i have) take advanage of me. The only time they call is when they need something and leave it to me to be there for them. I give so much to all who is around me and get nothing in return. Why is that??? Is it my fault for letting them do this to me? Does anyone ever call just to say how is ur day? For me the anwser is a sad no. I feel like if i had nothing to give there would be no calls. What should i do.????

I am extremely sorry that your friends are causing you pain. It sounds like you give so much- it's ashaim they do that to you. I hate to say it, but maybe you should take another look at why you are friends with them- no friend has the right to use you, and a relationship goes two ways.
I would try calling them to say how are you- maybe you'll rub off on them and they might do the same for you. I would also try telling them how you feel, communication is important- although both ways.
I have had this issue with so many friends....it's hard, and there is no reason to why they treated/ treat me that way.
But look at it this way, YOU are the one who is there for them whenever they need it, and they know to come to you for advice and when they need to talk: they trust you. You sound like a great friend, and i hope you keep realizing what you do for others (even if they don't realize it), because in the end it'll pay off.
Hang in there (:

FLAButterfly

[EverythingCanWait]

I know what this feels like, the last time I heard my best friend's voice was when she asked me to ask my mum to write her a job reference...
I think you should let them know you don't want to be treated like this, tell them you're more than just someone to take advantage of.