[wishful2468]

i really like a guy Mat he's mormon and i'm not so first problem and he's like perfect he's kind he helped me through my friends recent death and he's just different but i like it. unfortunently he refuses to change his views he sees steady dating as being forced to be with one person being trapped in a relationship and options and his last gf and him got close to going to far which freaked him out. he says he has feelings but he needs me to understand his views on steady dating. We've been out i guess i always thought it was just hanging out but i think he thinks i'm casually dating him i didn't realize til recently but at school people think we're dating it hasn't stopped my love life but he's not very social i keep trying to make him but without me he stands alone awkwardly.Also every time we're alone and for all Mormons who are all against teens being alone :P sorry its the stupid rules are frustrating i thought being Episcopalian was traditional its not far from catholic why aren't i good enough whatever i am trying not to insult a religion. Well its just when we are i usually have my head on his shoulder we hold hands a lot no kissing but when i was crying at a funeral he kissed my head probably just being nice and i rest my head on his chest or put his arm around me. I know unhealthy but i can't stop its unfair all mormons at my school are hot we have 6 one is pregnant one is a player two are pretty normal and matt and brett are kinda socially shy. Matt is better than brett and i have a small crush on Brett but he barely talks but i'm succeeding at getting him to warm up partially cause he recently turned 16. I feel paranoid because Amber a normal Mormon and also his age which is a year older than me at my school and a past crush of Matt's that didn't work out she's pretty sweet nice and like me doesn't wear make up which matt likes. I'm okay friends with her but even though i try to fight it i'm jealous she hangs out with matt in groups of friends shes freaking perfect and mormon and she and i had a conversation about matt she acted as if me and his relationship was impossible just cause i wasn't Mormon and all the rules said no. Me and matt text a lot and he said he only texts me and he let me read his journal its kinda private its got music poetry he's kinda historic he has this way about him that makes me think he's from Mozarts time. Also all these girls are unhappy when i flirt with him but its just cause when they try they get rejected. Well what do i do I really like him and feel comfortable we live within walking difference but he refuses to be serious and hes pretty good looking and most importantly hes a good guy. I've never felt so strongly about a guy but i need more than casual but the other guy i'm thinking about is also mormon and socially awkward. What should i do i really like him but i feel like theres no future?

[needfixing]

i would go with your gut feeling. he's not ready for commitment.

[wishful2468]

ya but a few days ago me and him had a total break down about what we are and now me and him are texting all cute making more plans to hang out alone he even wants to surprise me with something the day after my birthday (my birthday is martin Luther king day and I'm going on a small band trip with like 15 other kids to Universal studios i'll be there on my birthday)

[sandworm]

Originally Posted by wishful2468

ya but a few days ago me and him had a total break down about what we are and now me and him are texting all cute making more plans to hang out alone he even wants to surprise me with something the day after my birthday (my birthday is martin Luther king day and I'm going on a small band trip with like 15 other kids to Universal studios i'll be there on my birthday)

Universal Studios, cool.

I like the movie Megamind "I always lose but there is a benefit to
losing; you learn from your mistakes."


Remember this, Today's sure thing, life mate ; may be tomorrow's
memory and life lesson.

Just because 'this guy' is hopeless non-commitment phobe, does
not mean you will not learn some great lesson in the
journey.

"S"

[wishful2468]

u sound just like him srry but i wouldn't mind it if for our entire two month relationship yes we broke up long story short he won't listen to me he thinks dropping out of school and getting his ged and a job will be easy and he was a total jerk and it was just bad but i'm happy it happened kinda except one thing that ticked me off was he never acted like our relationship could be something he always acted like it was dated or i guess like u'll break up but not right now and he acted like everything for him was just a learning experiance for later well i just wanted to yell at him ITS NOT LATER ITS NOW so just shut up