[di meliora]

To sum up, though anger--paradoxically--is generally a reaction to feeling weak, powerless, and out of control, it does to a certain extent fortify us. But, overall, such fortressing is mainly artifice. For understood as chiefly a defense against inner feelings of frailty, anger doesn't begin to reflect anything like true strength or resiliency. Ultimately, personal power has a lot more to do with cultivating the ability to restrain our impulses, not simply forfeit to them. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...th-or-weakness

Dr. Leon F. Seltzer discusses anger, an emotion often a topic at this forum. Seltzer's insightful article concludes:

As has been said by many people in many different ways, happiness is a function of acceptance. Anger, on the other hand, is about resisting what is. As such, anger--or more precisely, habitual anger (or resentment)--isn't simply a weakness. It's a path leading to a lifetime of frustration, dissatisfaction, and misery. Given all that I've described here, it should be obvious that everything you can do to better control your tendencies toward anger will be richly rewarded.

Dr. Seltzer also refers to other of his writings I found useful when anger is a problem.