[JaniceP]

I am finding it difficult to stop thinking about my ex-boyfriend. I knew he was never the one for me, yet I dated him for 2 years and 3 months. We both got out of 26+ years of marriage the first time around, so we knew that we were not looking for marriage as we were both entering the single life of freedom and exploration.
(Fyi, before he met me, he dated a half dozen girls but it never lasted..one month or so at the most.)
So anyway, he took me places and spared no expense. We were extremely compatible and that made up for his looks (overweight). He spoiled me rotten. I met his family, he met mine.. people told us that were good together. I thought so too.
But after getting to know him over the years, he admitted that he had cheated on his ex-wife, went to massage parlors, etc. and also liked the D & S scene. (He told me about D & S from the very start and I didn't share with him that I didn't care for it)
He had a kidney transplant several months before I met him, and he knows that he has a new lease in life which he's enjoying to its fullest.
He was also honest about keeping in touch with a woman he had an affair with. Actually, she is the reason why he got his divorce in the first place. I didn't like the communication but I said what the heck, she works overseas anyway. But I caught him in a lie last summer when he met up with her while she was visiting the States for a dinner and a show.
So this time he decided to tell me he was going to meet her again but this time in Europe for a concert. I asked him to take me along too and he refused. I gave him time to reconsider but it didn't happen. He gave an excuse saying he needed to see her to resolve his past feelings for her..Whatever.. It turned out that they did rekindle their relationship and when he returned he asked me if we could have an 'open relationship' since he will be seeing her again.
I of course said no and ended it.
Like I said I knew it was going to happen and it did.

I'd like to know why I'm mad at this whole situation. I'd like to know why I didn't end it last summer. And why did I buy 2 tickets to see a band next month that I know he will be there?

[divine1966]

I recommend therapy for you to help you grieve and move on. He is very bad news as he is dishonest and overall his values just aren't compatible with committed relationship, I guess that's why he truly never commits to anyone. Plus if he has unprotected sex with all these women he puts you in danger. Stir away please



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[avlady]

Divine 1966 is right, i agree.