[kbee1981]

I am about 24 weeks pregnant, and it seems like lately all I've been feeling is overwhelmed and depressed. I'm excited to have another baby (this is #3), but right now all I can think about it how I don't feel like we have everything ready and my body is going through changes that are hard to handle while taking care of 2 other kids and a house. My husband tries to be supportive, but most of the time I just end up getting angry with him because I feel like he's either too busy to help or he just doesn't understand.

[Leed]

Being pregnant and ddepressed is pretty awful. Sweetie, you're gong to have to sit your husband down and have a talk. If he isn't beng supportive, you're going to have to TELL him what you need. Remember he's not a mind reader. If you need something done, be specific -- these men just don't get it much of the time. They just sit there and figure that everything is fine while we're tearing our hair out with the kids, laundry, kitchen, mopping, cooking, you name it. So TELL him what you want him to do. If its to take the kids and get them OUT of the house so you can cook or clean, then tell him. If its to do the laundry, then tell him. Whatever it is, tell hm. He can certainly help you -- so what if he worked 8 hours. You work 24/7!!! So don't feel sorry for him.

I'm on your side sweetie -- so make him help you! You need it! God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[Big Mama]

It's hard being pregnent. I know I was less then friendly for 9 months. I just felt to crappy to suger coat what I had to say. It's hard to manage things with 2 kids on the outside, your self and your H plus, another human living inside you.

There's another human inside of you. That's a big statement in its self. Depressed and overwhelmed is to be understood. It's hard work growing a garden it's even harder work growing a baby. Best of luck to you.

[JLarissaDragon]

I agree with Big Mama, being pregnant is hard work and a growing baby inside of you changes your emotional state substantially. I have been pregnant 4 times but only managed to carry one of them to birth. I had 3 miscarriages, all in the first 3 months. It is common to think men do not understand what it is like. They don't. How could they, they never have and never will have the experience and they are lousy mind readers. We as women need to communicate what we need and explain how they can be supportive. Approaching one's husband with requests rather than demands is usually much more productive. I found that when I got angry and made demands, I got nowhere. As hard as it is in our frame of mind, gentleness with them helps. They generally want to be supportive but often do n ot know how.

In this day, getting pregnant most of the time is a choice we make. It is also a decision that we cannot revoke. The reward of holding that little baby in your arms and nursing it with your breasts more than makes up for the struggles we endure

I wish you well and I hope you find much joy and many rewards in the end

Hugs
Larissa

[ElisaB]

Originally Posted by kbee1981

I am about 24 weeks pregnant, and it seems like lately all I've been feeling is overwhelmed and depressed. I'm excited to have another baby (this is #3), but right now all I can think about it how I don't feel like we have everything ready and my body is going through changes that are hard to handle while taking care of 2 other kids and a house. My husband tries to be supportive, but most of the time I just end up getting angry with him because I feel like he's either too busy to help or he just doesn't understand.

I can completely empathize with you. I have a 2 year old, 10 and 8. My third pregnancy was the hardest. Although my kids were not babies during the pregnancy, it was hard to handle all the things around me. I was depressed most of the time and felt very similar to how you feel. I found very little comfort when people would tell me to cheer up, that I was a walking miracle. But it's difficult to think that when it's not planned and you're already stressed. I have no words on encouragement I can offer you other than hang in there and have a sit down with the hub. My hubby was incredibly supportive when I was pregnant. Also, don't be too hard on yourself. It's ok if your house isn't perfect all the time, it's ok to sit down, relax and enjoy your other two children right now. I think the only thing that made me feel better was spending time with them - I had to cause I didn't want them to feel neglected when the baby came, so I took this time to enjoy them as much as I could.

[Psychstew]

I am also currently pregnant with my third child at 31 weeks. I am also a full time student. I completely understand how overwhelming things can get. I have been going through my own ups and downs in the mood department. There is already stress on your body due to hormone changes. Then thinking about getting everything prepared. My stressor lately has been will we have a good Christmas for my other two this year since we have to budget bills, mortgage, school payment, car payment, baby stuff , and now Christmas presents. We have been picking things up here and there but I think this year will be a little slack compared to last year and that makes me feel bad like we are not where we should be financially. I just remind myself to keep a positive outlook because things could be worse and I have been through worse. I agree with everyone who is saying talk to your husband ad let him know how you are feeling. I let my husband know when my moods are funky and sometimes apologize ahead of time just I case I get to grumpy. I also try not to put to much negativity and stress on him because he is working hard and probably stressing just as bad or worse than I am since he is the only one working currently. I also try to distract myself with fun activities with the kids since the holiday season is rolling around and that helps keep me positive.