[arachnophobia.kid]

I'm trying to work on my jealousy issues. I've been struggling with jealousy since I was young, I don't really know where it started and it seems like no matter what I do I just cannot defeat it. It's something that has been destructive in most of my closer relationships and I'm sick of that, I want it to stop ruining my life. I'm determined to beat it or at least make it more manageable so I can stop the destruction. Recently I have been asking a lot of people that I highly respect about their opinions on jealousy and it's been helpful. I thought it would be good to bring it here to. Please give me your thoughts and insights, any kind of support at all would be very helpful.

- A

[turquoisesea]

Hi there, I'm no expert but I've found often jealous really comes from personal insecurity about something, or as a reaction to something someone else is doing that doesn't feel right. It can also, for me, have something to do with things I feel like I'm not good at and fear especially in relationships that someone ELSE will have that quality and my partner might leave me/not appreciate me as much because of that.

also maybe some examples of what makes you jealous would help here =)

I'm sorry - jealousy is so hard to deal with and wish you didn't have to go through it

[arachnophobia.kid]

Originally Posted by turquoisesea

also maybe some examples of what makes you jealous would help here =)

It happens when my partner will spend time with someone she knows is attracted to her and wants to be with her. She will say things like 'it doesn't matter because I don't want to be with them' but it still hurts a lot. She is also naturally flirty so I have a hard time trusting her.