[MusicalRaven]

I feel so angry I just might cry!

So I'm 27, I have a masters degree in music, a full time job and I'm living with my parents. My financial situation is Okay and my friend wants to move into a place with me. I was excited about this. For the last year and a half I have been contributing to groceries and utilities. My dad had been underemployed or out of work altogether for about 9 months and just recently got a full time job with better pay. My mom is mentally ill and is on SSDI.

When I gently told them that my friend wanted to move out of his current living situation and move in with me in an apartment she responded with "We'll see." As if I needed her permission. She reminded me that they rely on me for my contribution and that there will be other bills that I said that I would pay come March. I assured her that those bills that I said I would help with I would still help with but that once I move out groceries and utilities would go down because I wasn't' using them.

I feel so used. I know that they love me but I just feel like they want me to make life easier on them. Meanwhile I'm getting more depressed and anxious, life seems worthless and I think that because I'm living with my parents I'm not worth anything. It wasn't so long ago that I looked down on people like me, 27 and living with their parents, going to meaningless jobs and not doing anything with their life.

I've become my own worst nightmare. *sob* I hate this. I don't like being so angry and hurt all the time.

I'm sorry. I just needed to vent. I'm going to move out whether they like it or or not.

[moodiegirl]

At 27, I think you deserve to lead your own life and live separately. The way you look after your parents is admirable. They got used to it and it won't be easy for them when you move, but they should really understand that you're a grown-up person. I know it's a difficult situation for you, but please don't look at your life as worthless because of it! Moving out will be great for you, it's a totally different feeling. And you will still care and help your parents, so don't feel guilty for your decision.

[Leed]

Hey, your father just got a full time job! So what's going to be their problem? She gets SSDl, which I know isn't always a whole lot, but it helps! I'm also on disability, along with a pension, and I'm supporting 3 people on it.

You should NOT feel guilty about moving out. You don't OWE your parents anything!!! They brought you into this world, and whatever they did for you, they were SUPPOSED TO. Now it's YOUR turn at life. For heavens sakes, you haven't even HAD a life yet, and you're 27. You've been taking care of THEM. That's above and beyond the call of duty.

Get rid of that guilt!!! Move out, and have fun and enjoy yourself. It's about time! And you don't have to help your parents anymore! There are social agencies for them if they need help. Let them take care of it.

But for you -- it's YOUR turn to fly. Spread your wings and do it! God bless you and please take care. And throw that guilt away. Hugs, Lee

[SocioJayOlogy]

Your mom is abusing you.write them when you're about to move out and let them know that you'll still help out with bills just not the extent since you're still living on your own. Masters in music? Team up with someone here to write a hit that goes platinum lol! Surely you understand the dynamics of what makes a song a great one as to just only good lol you are trying to fulfill your life. I feel awful for you. I hope only the best

i just wanted to say, musical raven, that you sure have a lot going for you compared to some of us.. who don't even work or have money.

go you

[Trippin2.0]

I know how you feel, except I'm 28 and take care of my pensioner mom and studying brother + obviously my daughter... I had to take over everything after my dad died, and dont see my mom 'allowing' me to move either, I cant honestly contemplate it, even had I the money to... You on the other hand, your dad is working and your mum is enjoying the free ride, go LIVE YOUR LIFE you deserve it!

[deccy29]

You're already 27, you deserve to have your own life, it's time to live with your own, but still they are your parents, just don't forget them. You can still help them even a little because your father already has a job. God Bless.

[Stranger516]

Listen to me:

You are 27 years old. You are mature now. You can make your own decisions. You must not feel guilty about moving out and going to be out living on your own. I understand that your parents need your help at this point in time, but your parents are adults who should be responsible enough to not have to rely on their child for assistance. It is not your fault in any way and like I said, do not feel guilty or depressed about this entire situation. Your parents can both support themselves, if not they shall learn to live within their means like the rest of the world should.

Live your own life. They have lived theirs and you have contributed enough as it is. You do not owe anything to anybody, even if they are your parents. If you wanted you could always help them out once in a while if they really needed it even after you move out, but by NO means allow them to make you feel guilty about making this choice in your life. It is your life, now live it on your own.

[MusicalRaven]

Thanks everyone. I am currently looking for a place with my soon to be new roomie. It's a bit overwhelming and sometimes I just want to give up but I won't. I can't live with my parents anymore. I just can't.

Thanks again for all the kind words. I'm excited to live on my own again.