Help With Anger Problem

I have a bad anger problem, i let alot of things get under my skin and i want to learn how to be more patient and tollerant. Does anyone know of an anger managment forum, or where they talk about anger problems on this site; i tried to search but didnt have any luck.

Or if this is the area to start at, i really need help fixing myself, so i can start to win back my fiance, and help her with her codependancy. Feel free to PM me to chat more, or just comment here. I am in afghanistan, and check my profile periodically. I really need the help, and the guidence. My mind is open to almost any advice. Thank you.

and please dont mind my spelling.

thank you.

Hello 1morerep. Are you in the military? If so thank you for your service. They do have a PTSD forum for military people. I think I've seen anger management too, but I'm not sure. You click Community on the menu bar and scroll through the forums to find the one you are looking for. Good Luck to you, I hope it will be helpful!

Hi there, and to PC.

One option here is the coping with emotions forum Do note that we do not allow discussion of excessive violence on this site most of the time/ be aware that talking about some of the result of your anger might be triggering to others. Focus instead on the FEELINGS of anger and what you can do to control these feelings.

I agree with Iowa - if you are military you may have more resources available to you.

I'm sorry I don't have more links. Often with anger there are other underlying problems that help to fuel the anger. Perhaps looking into something like that would help your anger problems?

I wish you alot of luck with your anger.. I have that too but direct it torwards myself.. Please don't stereotype yourself " afghanistan" we all can have anger regardless of race... Anger knowns no race. best of wishes to you.

Hi, just want to chip in my support for you. I recently read an article on Cracked.com called "4 difficult ways to simplify your life (but they are worth it)". And the first thing the author wrote was how we should let go of that "sweet anger". He put out that in the moments that we genuinely feel happy and positive, it never involved with situation where we express our anger. It's the memory of love, friendship and good things happen in life, not some fight at the bar where you knock someone's teeth out. I myself have the temper. But it's more an passive-aggressive way: I'm usually very shy, but when someone insulted me, especially my goodwill toward them, then I snap...verbally. TBH though, I still feel like I deserve to get angry at people, but it slowly hit me on my head that even if I may feel "relieved" after yelling at somebody, but it's just not enough for me to be happy and positive for a long period of time. After a while, I feel sad, miserable and misunderstood again. People keep making progress in their lives, while I failed to catch on with all the baggage around me. I am also reading a very interesting book called "the Power of Habit" and it hit some very interesting analysis about how we change our habits, both tangible and intangible ones. One of the major component of changing your habit is that you have to believe. You need to be surrounded by people who are having the same problem and can share our personal story among ourselves. Well you are here now. So that's good. There are people who may progress better than you, and they will share their success. You don't have to follow exactly what they did, but you can look at them and tell yourself "Yes, I can do." I think we all can read thousands of material about "anger management", but until we can share our own story and feeling to others, then we will be able to let that anger go. Wish you the best. Keep us update on your condition.

I believe you are in the right place. The first step to solving a problem is to admit that you have one. Have you tried journalling? See, you are not the only bad speller.

I also praise you on your admittance of the problem the first thing is to now yourself and your problem so you can ask for the help you need, sorry i don't know anywhere but i know others here probably have some places you could look-good luck

Thank you very much for your information, i am trying my hardest to not get so upset, i just need to try and make new habits. I read a book that said it is very hard to break old habbits, but easy to make new ones, so if you consiously make it a point to react differently during a time when you would be upset, then you can begin to make a new habbit that happens istead of the bad one... I have been trying to do it, and it has helped a lil, but i still get upset alot of times, and I have no patients.