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Old Feb 18, 2013, 04:30 PM
agatha9 agatha9 is offline
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Hi everyone!

As I posted before, my ex boyfriend got married about a month ago and just 8 months after we broke up. That made me feel bad, angry, replaced... I was wishing him and her wife the worst, I kept telling myself that they wouldn't last, that that marriage was a fraud and that he didn't look happy in his whatsapp avatar, where he was kissing his wife right after they got married. But I got used to the idea of him being married and I thought I was doing fine.

On Valentine's Day, he changed his avatar. But this time, it's a pic of him, alone, wearing exactly the same suit he was wearing at the wedding, but... he looks really... I don't know. He looks anything but happy! A friend of mine says he has guilt written all over his face. I only see sadness. I know him well and I know he had this rash that he has when he's under a lot of stress. A few nights before he got married he used another pic that I know he took to see how bad was that rash. I know he got insomnia the first days of his marriage because he was online all night long, even until 3 am! And now, that sad picture of him... He's trying to smile, but it's more like a girmace and his eyes look sad.

As I first saw the pic, I even got scared! My mom is a doctor and she says he looks ill. I thought he looked even scary, like a vampire or even a ghost! I remember thinking "who is using a picture of an Alfred Hitchcock movie as a whastapp avatar?" He's pale and sad and... he looks much more older than he really is. He's not the man I fell in love with. So... I am kind of worried about him now. I keep asking myself how he could possibly get married feeling that way, why he is looking so bad in that picture and why he chose to use it as avatar!

I also remember how handsome he looked when we were dating. I can't help comparing how he looks in that picture and how he looks in the ones I still have. My head is such a mess! I want to call him and tell him to have some respect for his wife and change that ugly avatar. I want to tell him to make the best out of that marriage, even if he's not happy. I'm really worried about him.

I believe I should be kind of laughing about it, because, as many people have told me it was the best for me, not to marry him. And I wouldn't want to be married to a guy like that. I know I wouldn't have been able to deal with what his wife had to endure just the day they got married, like his silly and chauvinistic jokes about marriage, like him staying up, chatting all night... But, still, I keep thinking what it would have been if he had married me... Would it have been different? Would he have been happier? Would he have done all that ugly stuff to me? Would he have a better, happier avatar? Would he be happier now?

I know it's none of my bussiness, but deep inside, I'd rather see a picture of him kissing his wife and enjoying his marriage, even if he's married to someone else, than having to look at that really sad picture that reminds me of a zombie or a vampire... And I'm not exaggerating about how bad he looks. I might be willing to see that he is not happy, but he definitely looks like he's ill: he's pale, has dry lips and shadows under his eyes, he's got htat rash... He looks better even when he is going through a very rough hangover!

If anyone can help me deal with this, I will really appreciate it.
Hugs from:
lovingstrangers, optimize990h

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Old Feb 19, 2013, 05:31 PM
lovingstrangers lovingstrangers is offline
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Take care sweetheart...you have a lot of things going on in your head and you seems devastated too. I am sorry I don't have advice for you. Try meditation may be it ll relax your mind. I mean it doesn't work for me but it works for some people. Hope your okey...
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