[HYPEKnuckles]

Hi,
I am having trouble with overbearing parents. I'm 22 years old and currently at uni which i started in September just gone. My parents have always been controlling but for the past few years its been in overdrive. They honestly try and control my every breath and its immensely annoying and frustrating. especially seeing as i moved away for uni and they are still somehow constantly on my case. I found this webpage which lists 10 common things overbearing parents might do. they do all of them. My mom constantly inquires about whether or not i have a girlfriend or if i am having sex, she calls me 24/7 often very late at night when I'm asleep, often the calls have no meaning either, just calling for the sake of calling. They both constantly make choices for me without any input, sometimes i only find out I've been opted for something days later. They both fight my battles for me without any consent or even me knowing about it, i will walk into work or college and a person i had a falling out with will say they spoke to my mom or dad (very embarrassing) They constantly put things off on me, from remedial jobs to helping someone they know (and i have no idea who they are) to move house, just so i come back from uni for a few days. and they constantly ask to be involved in things i am doing.

But my biggest problem more than any i have ever faced is the fact that i want to get a motorbike (600cc 46bhp restricted). I have previously owned a little 125 pop pop which caused me to bare an excessive amount of grief from my parents. I would get obscene phone calls from my mom constantly asking if i was ok and if i had been in any form of accident. As if i would answer all jolly and then say my legs were gone. The current problem i have is that i own a Subaru which now that i am a student is costing far too much to run and insure. Now selling the scooby would raise well in excess of what i need to pass my test and purchase a bike. although i would want to pass my theory before i sold the car. I didn't want to tell my parents about selling the car but it came up in conversation by accident. In the end after many days of being questioned repeatedly by them as to why i would sell the car. I had been telling them it was just too expensive to run which is the truth, as it is. But i finally told them i wanted a motorbike. Basically moms crazy went in to overdrive and she went off on one. Now they are saying that they are taking the car from me and are going to park it up at home and SORN it off the road. so i wont be paying for it, but i also wont be making any money. They said that if they even get a wif that im trying to sell it they will take the money and give it back to me in small enough amounts so that i cannot afford either my test or a bike. Strangely this is not the first time they have done this, they have done this 3 times with 3 previous cars that i wanted to sell to get a bike. i thought moving 190 miles from home would help but apparently not. I am 100% certain it is because of my mom, me and my brother both say she is a schizophrenic psycho due to her violent mood swings and massive panic attacks every time something happens. my brother although still living at home stopped properly talking to her years ago and now mostly just tells her to **** off whenever she talks. but that's him. not one for subtlety
Even when i had the 125 she would apparently be up all night, every night being sick and crying and have panic attacks thinking i had been killed. This went on for 3 months and then the bike broke and my parents forced me not to take it back to be repaired even though i was a new bike and still in warranty. Basically my dad couldn't cope with my mom so just takes her side. Thing is they knew at the time that if i had kept my 125 i would have progressed onto my full license after the 2 years so i dont know why it is such a shock to them whenever they hear i want my license. I think another major issue is that i do occasionally need their help whether it be the occasional £100 to help with an unexpected bill or a lift somewhere.

How can i separate myself from their controlling behavior yet still keep a relationship with them. i do occasionally need their help and on occasion (rare) like to be around them so don't want to be completely cut off (I am not a fast rider and all i want to do is enjoy a bit of youthful freedom on a bike but they have said if i ever get a motorbike to never contact them again, or anyone in the family)

[Thunder Bow]

Get that Motorbike!!! ASAP!!