[serbeena]

Hi.
Like most girls, I struggle to feel good about myself, and learn how to be positive about myself.

I have a wonderful boyfriend (we've been together for 7 months now), and I couldn't be any happier.
But there's a really big issue.
Whenever there's a girl on TV/in a movie or on the street, my boyfriend comments/yells that she's cute or hot. It happened just yesterday, and I thought: "Hey, what's wrong with ME? Am I too fat compared to her or something?" What he does makes me really jealous and angry. I hissed at him and stopped talking to him for several hours, giving him the "silent treatment" until he cried and said sorry. Then I started to feel bad.
This happens very often, and I'm starting to feel like I have to do something.

Is it wrong of me to do this? Am I being overly jealous and unfair? Or is there a GOOD reason why he's doing this?
Please, help

[Trippin2.0]

The GOOD reason he does this, is because he has 2 eyes and an appreciation for beauty. Which also means you must be attractive

Its wrong of you because you reduce him to tears over fictional photoshopped women

Now, If he does it in public to real girls, I can understand (altho I don't have an issue with my bf's eyesight working just fine) but TV?

Really? C'mon, be realistic here.

Also there's absolutely nothing wrong with you, he's dating you isn't he? and he obviously likes pretty girls doesn't he? So I'm absolutely sure there's nothing wrong with you.

Other pretty girls did not suddenly cease to exist when you 2 started dating. What good is eyesight if you are not "allowed" to appreciate beauty???..... Not even on the TV

And just because a guy or a girl looks and appreciates the sight of another, doesn't mean their partners are in danger of being replaced, or are not good enough.

Lastly, and I promise I'm not being mean here. Your jealousy and insecurity is your problem. Best you work on it instead of making your bf "pay" for it.

[don'tknowagoodname]

I have a few questions about this.
Does he know what he does bothers you?
Is it a regular thing?
Does he comment that you're pretty/hot?

[sans]

If the tables were turned and you were making comments about good looking guys you saw, would he be ok with that? I think its about mutual respect and if he knows it bothers you, then he can tone it down.
Ofcourse, we all look at others, but we don't all comment out loud-- thoughts that hurt feelings of ones we care about.
I definitely have trust issues, and hope to correct my way of thinking, so this may be way off. Just the way i see it.

[Worry Wart]

Originally Posted by serbeena

Hi.
Like most girls, I struggle to feel good about myself, and learn how to be positive about myself.

I have a wonderful boyfriend (we've been together for 7 months now), and I couldn't be any happier.
But there's a really big issue.
Whenever there's a girl on TV/in a movie or on the street, my boyfriend comments/yells that she's cute or hot. It happened just yesterday, and I thought: "Hey, what's wrong with ME? Am I too fat compared to her or something?" What he does makes me really jealous and angry. I hissed at him and stopped talking to him for several hours, giving him the "silent treatment" until he cried and said sorry. Then I started to feel bad.
This happens very often, and I'm starting to feel like I have to do something.

Is it wrong of me to do this? Am I being overly jealous and unfair? Or is there a GOOD reason why he's doing this?
Please, help

Get rid of him if he acting that way. It sounds
Obvious to me u are too good for him and
He is just trying to make u jealous. Tell
Him if u want those girls he is making
Comments about to go after them and
See how he reacts. Just my opinion coming
From a mans point of view.

[A Red Panda]

Have you opened up to your bf about how you actually feel jealous about those things, even if you know it's rather silly?

Like someone else mentioned - is he ok with it if you point out guys that you think are attractive?

If he just likes to comment and truly isn't doing things maliciously.. and if he lets you know in his own way that he thinks you're great, why not make a game of it when you're watching a movie or tv? See if you can guess which of the girls he'll think is the prettiest. Also comment on the men too - then it's all fair.

Like, just using Pirates of the Carribean here - I think Johnny Depp is way hotter than Orlando Bloom. I also think Kiera Knightley is hot. I'm totally straight, but I can easily see that she is. I'd see if my guy could guess which of the two actors I found to be the most attractive... or if he could put all three in order. He'd probably be surprised that I find Keira Knightley more attractive than Orlando Bloom!

Just try to find a way to make it into a positive thing you can do together, as it might help take the jealousy away. And it will make him more aware of the fact that he makes those comments and that you aren't comfortable with him. You both need to be aware of it.

[Open Eyes]

I don't even think this is about jealousy really. IMHO whenever I was with a guy on a date or going out with someone it is just plain rude if the other person is acting this way.
I don't do this with my husband and I have never done this when I dated either.

It is about maturity and manners IMO. If he wants to behave this way he should do it on his own time, not when he is with someone on a date etc.