[CJ0706]

What I would like to know is during the moods you experience where you find yourself distancing yourself from a significant other would you rather they continue to try to make contact with you or have space given to you? As much detail as possible will help

A little background:
My fairly new boyfriend (of about 5 months) has Bipolar which I recently learned. He also is not taking meds right now. In the past I have texted him everyday to maintain contact when he distances me (Him reciprocating ranges from a couple responses, convos that span over a couple hours or no response at all) and we dont hang out during this distancing phase but eventually he comes around and we go back to seeing each other/talking regularly. But I'm trying to decide if it would be better to keep trying to talk with him (even if some days he doesnt respond) or to give him a couple days of space and not trying to talk to him (I always start the convos). I've posted this on a Bipolar forum and a couple ppl said they'd still want someone to maintain constant contact and that it makes them feel wanted or not insecure despite the distance. But I feel like I've also read advice on giving space..however this often feels like its from the perspective of the person who does not have Bipolar and I'm not sure how helpful that might be, this is why I think hearing from someone who has Bipolar is very important

[redbandit]

I have bipolar 2 disorder. My mood swings are always changing! When I'm in my down phase, sometimes I just want space, sometimes I just want to be held. It's really tough dealing with constantly changing emotions. I'm so thankful my husband puts up with me lol Idk what I'd do without him

[A Red Panda]

BP2 - I get really worried if someone stops contact with me, even if I've asked for it or know that I'm being an idiot and not responding to them. I might not want to really have much time with someone... but to know that they're thinking of me helps a lot. It's a weird balance... made worse by the fact that I recognize it'd be easiest for other people if I contacted them first during these periods. But I get really frustrated and angry if I feel like I'm the only person putting any effort in. So having someone else messaging me? Overall it's a positive, even if I get annoyed or something during my own.

haha. I dont' think any of that makes sense, butthat's how my brain works. Best way to know how things are for your guy, is to ask him about it when he's in a normal phase and not when he's in a down or an up.