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Question Oct 24, 2013 at 05:17 PM
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Could never express my feelings or emotions to my family. Even though I know it's not true if I express any feeling positive or negative (which they consider sadness or being a bit upset negative) your weak and complaining. Has anyone had that experience?

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Default Oct 24, 2013 at 11:39 PM
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I've never really learned to show emotions or how to share my feelings. That's why I hide them most of the time. Although, my husband has told me that when I'm upset it shows on my face.
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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 08:33 AM
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I've never really learned to show emotions or how to share my feelings. That's why I hide them most of the time. Although, my husband has told me that when I'm upset it shows on my face.
I get that also the way I feel showing on my face. I also hold things in but you know we should not do that, why? Because we can make ourselves sick internally also becoming stress which could lead to all sorts of health issues. Thank for your feed back friend.

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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 09:39 AM
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*raises hand*

That's why I whine and complain here. Whenever I want to talk about how I'm feeling around anyone it becomes about them. If you've read some of my posts, I have tended to be the "rock" for people in the past (the person they could come to for support) so people don't think I have feelings and need support myself.
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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 09:43 AM
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I know I can't either. Then again I was raised by a mean mother who had the battle cry of "Don't feel that way!" I have a husband who belittles my feelings. Now you know why I stick with a journal as my way of getting my emotions out.
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Confused Oct 25, 2013 at 10:49 AM
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Could never express my feelings or emotions to my family. Even though I know it's not true if I express any feeling positive or negative (which they consider sadness or being a bit upset negative) your weak and complaining. Has anyone had that experience?


I need to let my feelings out. I feel trapped.. suffocated and it feels never-ending. I'm tired of crying and being sad. I wanna shut my emotions out. I don't wanna feel anything. Pls.
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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 02:24 PM
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i used to have a real problem with this and to some extent still do. a couple of years ago my appearance and my internal turmoil were so incongruent that my parents would be shocked/blindsided when i snapped. i guess i was afraid of not being their perfect daughter and i felt like they wouldn't understand. and i think part of me was right. but after years of therapy, they've become more understanding of my intense emotions and have tolerated me... which helped me trust them more.

i'm still not completely open with them-- and i certainly don't discuss my emotions with friends or my siblings-- but i'm more able to let them know when i'm "not ok" and usually it's via e-mail because i can't stand to see their faces/hear their concern.
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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 09:59 PM
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I can relate to what your saying. I'm the "mom" for everyone, and everyone's caretaker and burden the emotions,pains and feel everything everyone around me feels. I listen to all of them, help and support them all but when I need to vent or even want to brag,....it seems they're all so preoccupied...like I never matter! Pisses me off and it really hurts. I'm always there to care for them.
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Default Oct 25, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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I was alway punished for saying what I felt. Now I mostly don't know what I'm feeling.

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Default Oct 26, 2013 at 08:00 AM
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*raises hand*

That's why I whine and complain here. Whenever I want to talk about how I'm feeling around anyone it becomes about them. If you've read some of my posts, I have tended to be the "rock" for people in the past (the person they could come to for support) so people don't think I have feelings and need support myself.
I know exactly where your coming from. Thank for sharing.

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Default Oct 26, 2013 at 08:16 AM
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Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and feelings with me. Sometimes we feel alone in our situations and I sorry that we are all going through being treated like you don't matter and your feelings counts for nothing but it does because we are humans and we want to be heard helped and respected when we are going through something and just not the care giver the listening ear all the time.

I am prepared to live in VICTORY today over all my circumstances.

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