[GirlOfManyFaces]

I have this very very close friend who I have adopted into my life as my little sister. (Because she is very close to my heart and my actually little sister passed away and my friend reminds me of her) anyway...
I got in a HUGE fight with Lil Sis a few months ago and we didn't talk for a while. I shut her out because I was afraid that my life was affecting her mental health. (And it was, but leavig her made it worse) anyway...
I just hung out with her for the first time a few days ago and she was filling me in on what I have missed in her life. And I asked her if she had any boys she liked at the moment. And she went silent... I got really worried. (She is 13 and in 8th grade btw) after a few minutes she told me that she was bisexual, which I already kind of knew. I wasn't shocked by that. It was that she had a girl she liked at school and as she was telling me about this girl she when silent again...
After another minute or two she finally said that she slept with this girl... Like full on SLEPT with her... She is 13 years old! My baby sister did this and I just don't know how to process this. I may just be over reacting but I adore my sweet inoccent baby sister, and I just can't imagine her doing this.
She could have done something worse but still... She is in middle school! My lil baby girl did somethi he shouldn't even know about yet. I just can't handle knowing this. I haven't slept in 2 days..... I just can't handle it

[CaptainChaos79]

Well she was honest with you and what's done is done so the best thing you can do is encourage her to make better decisions in the future...safe sex etc. Hopefully you are a good role model for her and you can lead by example and not just by what comes out of your mouth.

Thirteen is not too young to experiment with sexuality. Ideally, a later age would be better, but it's encouraging that your sister was honest with you. Like Captain says, just be sure your sister is fully informed about safe sex and, before she becomes sexually active with a boy (if she does), pregnancy prevention.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Thanks you guys. I we just seem to be on two different planted after the fight.

And I'm not a good role model. That's also a concern. I just feel like I can't give her what she deserves. She and I are all each other had for a long time. And now she has friends, that are not the type of friends you want, and I'm still by myself. I need her bit I'm not sure if he still needs me. Ya know?

[CaptainChaos79]

Then you should try to reconnect. If she means that much to you then its worth trying. If you dont try you will regret it. In 20 years we regret more things that we didn't do than things thay we did do. --Mark Twain

[callmekari]

I was 14 when I first had sex and if given the opportunity would have at a younger age. Some people are just ready for that sooner than others. What's done is done. I know its super shocking to you and your instinct is to protect her but just be supportive, have the safe sex talk and all that jazz. You may think you're a bad influence but you obviously care about her. Regardless of your own choices, you can still guide her. She might even learn from mistakes you've made. You might feel she doesn't need you now, but she will. Be her rock, she'll appreciate it down the road.

[GirlOfManyFaces]

Sex before marriage is very wrong where we grow up. I was r*p*d when I was 14 and my life is not one she should live. I'm just so worried she will go off the deep end. She is. Wry emotionally and psychologically unstable. She could do something drastic at any moment

[yumi]

I understand where you are coming from. When my daughter told me she had sex so early, I went into mourning too. She is my baby and I did not want that for her.

I guess all we can do is accept that what's done is done and encourage them to please wait for the Right person before engaging in it again. Sadly, we can't control it , tho... people will do what they want to do no matter the advice we give.

I still mourn for my daughter, tho. That won't ever go away.