[Jolisse]

My family is always telling me I need to be more trustful of people. But every time I trust someone, they let me down. How many times do I need to get stabbed in the back and hurt by other people?
I don't trust the majority of people, I feel trust must be earned.
I'm just curious about other people's opinion on this!

Originally Posted by Jolisse

My family is always telling me I need to be more trustful of people. But every time I trust someone, they let me down. How many times do I need to get stabbed in the back and hurt by other people?
I don't trust the majority of people, I feel trust must be earned.
I'm just curious about other people's opinion on this!

My whole life I have never been able to trust. I have been hurt too much by absolutely everyone I have come in contact with. The word "TRUST" in my world no longer exists. Hopefully you will do better.

[brainhi]

I am not very trusting either. What I know about myself, I do not have a lot of emotional support or money....so I am overly careful about "letting people in". I cannot afford to make a mistake by being betrayed or used.

At a very young age I did not receive very much support within my family - so you learn lessons very quickly as to who you can take a chance on.

But, I also know...if you do not let others in and experience "life" good and bad with them...you miss out. I still work very hard to resolve this.

[Jolisse]

At the point in my life, I just can't trust. It takes a long time for me to establish friendships, due to past experiences. I know I may be "missing out", but I can't take the betrayal anymore. People seem to be so selfish nowadays and very good at hiding their motives.
I still try if I get a positive feeling about a person but tread lightly, before becoming too involved.
Recently I met a woman who wants to be friends, we share the same interests and she seems very nice. I'm going forward with the friendship, we've been helping each other out and she seems sincere.
I guess time will tell if she's trustworthy.

[PoorPrincess]

Jolisse,
I was a very trusting younger me. However my world was very different decades ago.
I've learned much later in life, something of a rude, traumatic awakening --- that trust for me now in my life does need to be earned, as you say. I think you are wise to not trust the majority of people, as you say.

The same goes for respect.
A person's position of status, celebrity, office, power or authority does not automatically warrant either my trust or respect. I need to see and observe what they're made of and not just what's upfront for show or for comeon. There is so much out there pretending to be what it is not.

I wish for you the best.

[Jolisse]

Thanks Princess, I was also very trusting when I was younger.

[glok]

Hello, Jolisse. I will trust until there is a basis not to trust. I opt in; you opt out. People have different ways of achieving the same result.

[brainhi]

Originally Posted by Jolisse

At the point in my life, I just can't trust. It takes a long time for me to establish friendships, due to past experiences. I know I may be "missing out", but I can't take the betrayal anymore. People seem to be so selfish nowadays and very good at hiding their motives.
I still try if I get a positive feeling about a person but tread lightly, before becoming too involved.
Recently I met a woman who wants to be friends, we share the same interests and she seems very nice. I'm going forward with the friendship, we've been helping each other out and she seems sincere.
I guess time will tell if she's trustworthy.

I wish you well!!!! May the good outweigh the bad - always.