[PianogirlPlays]

Been struggling with some events with my daughter. I am trying to reach out and make a friendly gesture. It is scary though because things with her do not always work out and I am barely healed from some pretty tough scenes. I get all guilty and sympathetic since she is my daughter but it is just those feelings that have gotten me in big trouble in the past. She can be a tough customer if she is feeling rotten herself. Right now I wish I hadn't because my heart is always on my sleeve. Hopefully I will hear from her but I just never know. I wish it did not end up hurting me!

[Nat92]

I'm sorry for your situation.

Has your relationship with her always been like that? I myself would sadly be on the other end where your daughter is, where I'm the part trying to reach out, so I in some ways can relate.

I would therefore like to emphasize that it's important to step lightly when things are so imbalanced and wobbly. What exactly are you feeling guilty about? And what, if you so wish to explain further, is the reason for her to act like this?

The worst case scenario here is that your relationship with your daughter would get worse, that you or she would move further away and this huge gap would form between you.

Do you have any clues as to what went wrong or where it went wrong? Figuring out what's the cause of the distancing is key, because without it, you'd only be making guesses and asking the wrong questions.

Hugs and love.

[PianogirlPlays]

I like your words that it will be okay. There is an imbalance there. Even though I may be sending her pictures or information about a place I know she loves. She doesn't often answer emails. I want hope and expect her to answer and I fall to pieces when that doesn't happen. I do not get it. I am a person who answers promptly but unfortunately she is not the only poor correspondent. I find it difficult with anybody . This seems so hard because I know she knows I like people to answer when I send them nice things. But, like my sister she who seems to have few distractions doesn't always answer. The problem truly lays within me. I feel terrible and feel painfully rejected. I tend to take it very personally when in fact she is just that way. Today, I have vowed , since I feel that way not to email her any thing except answers to hers. I felt I wasn't doing a good job of keeping up with her but if it doesn't register with her then there is no point. I just wish I could put my wounded soul back together again and dismiss it.

[PianogirlPlays]

Thankfully I did hear from her . Painfully struggle with my basket case feelings.

[Fuzzybear]