[PianogirlPlays]

Mainly because of others. What they say and how they treat me . It is really affecting my personality and trust in myself. It feels terrible because it is my own family. Oh for nice!

[Travelinglady]

Alas, the people who tend to be the meanest to us are our own family members. If there is no truth to what they are saying, then it is best to try to consider the sources, who are not perfect themselves. Are they lowering your self-esteem? If so, then you might want to check out the "Steps to Better Self-Esteem" forum:http://forums.psychcentral.com/steps...r-self-esteem/.

No beating yourself up allowed! Ya hear?

[PianogirlPlays]

Painfully stuck because she is my daughter and I love her and miss her so much. There have been better times but now she is all anger and even wrong accusations against me. She should know better.

[SmileHere]

Hmm... has she refused contact? What sorts of wrong accusations? Complete fabrications or what could be possibly 'true' from her point of view, you just haven't been aware of it?
Sometimes people can do something that may have hurt other people without meaning to... If it was something you might have done without realizing it, it might be enough to say 'I'm sorry'?
If it's something completely fabricated and untrue, then you have my sympathies... ((hugz))

Parenting is an incredibly difficult job and I admire all who do it. You never know how the kids are going to turn out... You probably did your best according to then-knowledge and capabilities...

[Thoughtsinpink]

I am coping with a similar rejection from my son. Does he not realize the pain he is causing me? I cannot cope any longer and it just hurts so much. I am giving into the pain.

[Gus1234U]

there are alternatives to beating ourselves up, and/or letting others' abuse send us into a funk. here is a link to a post on Self-Soothing Skills. Take back your CALM~!

http://forums.psychcentral.com/copin...g-skills~.html

[SmileHere]

Thoughtsinpink,

Sometimes children can be too 'spoilt' or may not have enough empathy for parents, especially if they're young. This may change over time. Or they may be holding resentments.

Please don't give into the pain too much, stay strong. You did the best you could - it's better to reexamine how to improve your life now, so you will not depend on your child so much - can you find new friends, join a course or a charity or other activities... Then, when you are okay, maybe the child will 'come back' to you with admiration or realization that you were a good mom after all! Hope you will manage to work things out!

[shabur]

I think when it comes to family members they have certain expectations based on our past with them, when we were "healthy". As has been said so many times, MI is so misunderstood - we don't show traditional physical signs of an illness and it doesn't show up on an x-ray.

When my MI hit I became so frustrated with my siblings because they didn't understand it. They challenged everything and I began to question myself. "What was I doing wrong?" "Why couldn't I make my self do ___?" ... And they treated me like I was an idiot, telling me what I needed to do and how to go about doing it.

They didn't get it until I was hospitalized on suicide watch and I let them talk to my pdoc. After that, things got better. When I told my mother, after 10 years of treatment, my pdoc mentioned mine was more than likely hereditary and based on what I had told her it came from her side of the family. My mother became indignant, saying I didn't get it from her.

It is so very frustrating, but remember they don't understand. Believe what your T is telling you. And if your family won't stop with their negativity, tell them they can't possibly understand and you don't want to hear it.

[PianogirlPlays]

Originally Posted by Thoughtsinpink

I am coping with a similar rejection from my son. Does he not realize the pain he is causing me? I cannot cope any longer and it just hurts so much. I am giving into the pain.

I hope things get better for you. They really don't know.