[Moonkarma]

I fail majorly in coping with my emotions. Healthy ones don't even seem to come in mind. I'm very impulsive all it takes is one thought and it's off to the races. I've been self harming since I was in middle school and substance abuse. Those are my two unhealthy skills. I don't let myself go through the emotions. I put up my wall and let it build till I breakdown. Most of the time I don't know what I'm feeling. I've been in therapy for years and groups so I know there are better choices. My problem is that I always go to what I've always done because I know what to expect. I do have to give myself credit for using this site. For every unhealthy coping, I must replace with a healthy one. How do you get to the root of the emotion and what's causing it?

[BabyJaden4Ever]

Originally Posted by Moonkarma

I fail majorly in coping with my emotions. Healthy ones don't even seem to come in mind. I'm very impulsive all it takes is one thought and it's off to the races. I've been self harming since I was in middle school and substance abuse. Those are my two unhealthy skills. I don't let myself go through the emotions. I put up my wall and let it build till I breakdown. Most of the time I don't know what I'm feeling. I've been in therapy for years and groups so I know there are better choices. My problem is that I always go to what I've always done because I know what to expect. I do have to give myself credit for using this site. For every unhealthy coping, I must replace with a healthy one. How do you get to the root of the emotion and what's causing it?

I am sorry that you are having such a difficult time coping with your emotions at this time. I find it very helpful to have a list healthy emotions vs. a list of unhealthy emotions. Being impulsive is not good for you. You must teach yourself to act rather than react meaning that you think first before being so impulsive. This time will allow you to develop more healthy coping skills which unfortunately involve CHANGE which we resist because we are comfortable with doing what we have always done, knowing the results. Emotions can be hiding what you are afraid to deal with in your life and talking with a professional you trust on an individual basis may help you to find out what the emotion stems from. I wish you success in finding what you are looking for.

[vital]

Originally Posted by Moonkarma

I fail majorly in coping with my emotions. Healthy ones don't even seem to come in mind. I'm very impulsive all it takes is one thought and it's off to the races. I've been self harming since I was in middle school and substance abuse. Those are my two unhealthy skills. I don't let myself go through the emotions. I put up my wall and let it build till I breakdown. Most of the time I don't know what I'm feeling. I've been in therapy for years and groups so I know there are better choices. My problem is that I always go to what I've always done because I know what to expect. I do have to give myself credit for using this site. For every unhealthy coping, I must replace with a healthy one. How do you get to the root of the emotion and what's causing it?

In my opinion, the problem is not so much with the particular emotions you have or what is causing them. The problem is the WAY you have emotions. Try this...

SNAP CLUB
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html

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[WantToGrow]

Vital, I am very intrigued by this game I am going to the therapist for the first time tomorrow (at least, she's a new therapist and I haven't been to one in many years). I am plagued by what I believe to be symptoms of ADD, and have been my whole life, though I have trouble remembering much about my childhood.

My depression stems from the issues that surround ADD, but I only just came to this realization. All these years, I thought depression and anxiety were my primary problems, and have been on antidepressants forever, but the negative thoughts remain in my head. Loss of control in my life leads to anger, frustration, and a downward spiral. What you wrote makes sense! I just hope I don't drive my husband crazy with all that snapping LOL! Thank you so much for sharing this!

[vital]

Originally Posted by WantToGrow

Vital, I am very intrigued by this game I am going to the therapist for the first time tomorrow (at least, she's a new therapist and I haven't been to one in many years). I am plagued by what I believe to be symptoms of ADD, and have been my whole life, though I have trouble remembering much about my childhood.

My depression stems from the issues that surround ADD, but I only just came to this realization. All these years, I thought depression and anxiety were my primary problems, and have been on antidepressants forever, but the negative thoughts remain in my head. Loss of control in my life leads to anger, frustration, and a downward spiral. What you wrote makes sense!

It DOES make sense, doesn't it!

Originally Posted by WantToGrow

I just hope I don't drive my husband crazy with all that snapping LOL! Thank you so much for sharing this!

Your so welcome! I find it very fun to do, especially after you start to realize that it's really working. I hope things go well with the new therapist too.

- v