[Jenni855]

I was badly betrayed by an onlime friend who wrote vile things about me on a public blog and then led me to it. I thought we were friends and like she understood me. Now I am at my lowest, I keep feeling the urge to get back in touch with her for support and care even if it isn't real. Is this common? How do I stop?

[pegasus]

Hello Jenni855, from what I know of you on here, you have very low self-esteem. Sadly, when we are down on ourselves we can often seek out the wrong type of people. Your so-called friend was vile to you, don't go back to it, you deserve better.

I know it hurts to be betrayed by someone you trusted. But SHE is the one in the wrong here.
You don't want anything more to do with her.
Stay away from her and don't read anything she writes.

Keep telling yourself that you can't be around people that hurt you. It's for your own good.

[Jenni855]

Thanks, it sounds silly but I need people here telling me I am wrong for even considering getting in touch with her again.

I don't think it's silly at all.

A lot of the time, I can't be objective about things that are happening to me. Plus I can really be persuasive (the wrong way!) with myself when it comes to issues of self-care.

And this is a place for support. That's why we're ALL here.

[Fuzzybear]

I don't think it's silly. We can be persuasive with ourselves, or the other person can be very persuasive Thanks for sharing this post, I'm guessing it might help many who read it. Sometimes we all need gentle reminders to stay away from people who maybe have fit into a piece of our jigsaw caused by trauma. Just recently I was thinking of returning to see someone who had hurt me badly (not an online person).. (not a good idea...)

I was in your position. I was friends with this girl for 14yrs, I had gotten in a Relationship & she did not approve. I dropped her & she continued to harass me online, making fake profiles & spreading lies. before those things happened, I thought of getting in contact with her, & then I thought of the horrible things she did and it stopped. just keep in mind how she betrayed you, you don't need that in your life. just try to focus on the positive people in your life

[Jenni855]

Thank you and sorry to hear of your experience x

[aprengo]

At the present moment I am practising tiny habits.
Little changes.
The main problem to me is breath correctly.
I know is a consecuence. But the first target is change this.
Learning to breath under the pain or any other bad circunstances.