[Artchic528]

I can't seem to stop people from calling me rude names...how do I stop them?

The best way to avoid internet trolls is to simply ignore them. What they want is to get a rise out of you. If you don't respond, they'll move on to someone who will. At least this has been my experience.

[Frankbtl]

Hi Artchic, firstly I'm really sorry this has been happening to you
When people bully it's often about their problems not about you, but you know that anyway right??
Do the places where this is happening on the internet have sections where you can forward concerns or complaints to, where you could report them??
There are laws on cyber bullying so they should required to act responsibly in the case of a complaint.
So report.......report........report............
And again please try not to let it effect the way you feel about yourself, it says everything about them, rather than about you.
Here's a couple of links that might help (??):
Policies on Bullying
Cyberbullying Stats Show Massive Occurance Rate
But remember here (PC!!) is a safe place to talk if you want/need to.............

Alison

[Thunder Bow]

Bullying is all about control. Internet bullies are trying to control people in forums and chat rooms. People will bully others if they think they can get away with it. Name calling is just another way to control a forum member. Remember name calling has nothing to do with the topic in question. It is just about control.

[viráglevél666]

2 words.

ignoring them!
always works

[BLUEDOVE]

Here's a good reply to any insults: "As much as I'd
like to accommodate you, I've got into such a habit
of judging my OWN behavior, I couldn't possibly
burden you with that task."

[hvert]

I agree with everyone saying that ignoring them is the way to go. I also find that some online spaces are safer than others and try to avoid places that make me feel bad. It's hard to resist the temptation to click on something I know will just upset me, but it's better in the long run.

[Artchic528]

Yeah, I know what you mean, hvert, as I'm sorely tempted to go back to this one site where I was bullied, mostly because I once had good times there, and former friends (now turned into the bullies). However I am downright adamant with myself that going there will only bring about bad things for me, so I force myself to not go there.

[Thunder Bow]

I more of a Warrior when it comes to Bullies. If I see them hurting others I will stand up to the Bully. If they get madder and more nasty, they usually end up being banned from the forum. That is usually my objective, get them banned.

In some places like YouTube, you can block them from posting on your videos. I have dealt with Bullies and win most of the time. They get banned, blocked, or they run from me. If I end up getting banned, then that forum is not a place for me. In one case I got banned, and used a trusted war arrow to get myself back in. Now with that war arrow, I have protected that forum from other bullies.

Some times if I ignore them, I feel I am letting them control me. If I ignore them I am letting them control me. People will bully you, if they think they can get away with it. Ignoring some times can be giving them permission to bully. You got options, choose the one that fits best for you. Thus I use my shield, war horse, and war arrows to fight bullies.

[Artchic528]

What do you do if the staff of said site (Not this one, but another undisclosed site), are the ones who are being the bullies?

I decided to just up and leave that site altogether, as I didn't want to expose myself to their torment. It was a hard decision because those who bullied me, humiliated me, and stripped me of my admin powers over there, and any notion I once had them, mind you, were once people I saw as friends, and talked to via facebook on a daily basis.

Sometimes I let my mind wander to that site and ask myself if they would ever consider going back to how things were before things got dicey and they betrayed me. I sometimes even think of how I would confront them and ask them why they did it, not that I would ever actually do so. I know that they probably would just go on the way they have been, and turn a cold shoulder towards me, and probably bully me some more.

I'm not saying I was a saint all this time either, I've said and done some rather regrettable things. However, I never once turned my back on them, until they downright asked me to go away, at which point I just cut my losses and stopped all communication with them in any way.

I know I'm feeling the best I have been in a long, LONG while, and I don't want them to rain on my parade. So yeah, I'm using all my strength and willpower to prevent myself from falling into their wicked trap for a second time.

[hvert]

I think you are on the right track in avoiding that site. It's really disappointing when a place changes like that. A site I was on got taken over by trolls earlier this year. I think most of them were the same person posting under different names. Anyway, four months later, most of those people are finally gone and things are (sort of) back to how they were. Maybe the same thing will happen with your site!

[Artchic528]

Well, I can always hope, I guess.

Just wish they didn't run and own the site too. Is it wrong that I get satisfaction from their forum being nearly inactive now?

Originally Posted by The Skeezyks

The best way to avoid internet trolls is to simply ignore them. What they want is to get a rise out of you. If you don't respond, they'll move on to someone who will. At least this has been my experience.

most sites have an ignore/ block feature. (or the ones i've been to have)

you could start by that

other things you could do is write to the administrators/ moderators and talk to them (this especially works if someone is breaking a rule)

let's say that someone is constantly harassing you, and 1 of the rules of the site is if you ask someone to stop harassing you, they do

and if they continue you could write the moderators/ admins, who could have a word with that member privately

change your username (if the site has that option)

even create a new acount

hope all this helps..

[Thunder Bow]

Originally Posted by Artchic528

What do you do if the staff of said site (Not this one, but another undisclosed site), are the ones who are being the bullies?

I decided to just up and leave that site altogether, as I didn't want to expose myself to their torment. It was a hard decision because those who bullied me, humiliated me, and stripped me of my admin powers over there, and any notion I once had them, mind you, were once people I saw as friends, and talked to via facebook on a daily basis.

Sometimes I let my mind wander to that site and ask myself if they would ever consider going back to how things were before things got dicey and they betrayed me. I sometimes even think of how I would confront them and ask them why they did it, not that I would ever actually do so. I know that they probably would just go on the way they have been, and turn a cold shoulder towards me, and probably bully me some more.

I'm not saying I was a saint all this time either, I've said and done some rather regrettable things. However, I never once turned my back on them, until they downright asked me to go away, at which point I just cut my losses and stopped all communication with them in any way.

I know I'm feeling the best I have been in a long, LONG while, and I don't want them to rain on my parade. So yeah, I'm using all my strength and willpower to prevent myself from falling into their wicked trap for a second time.

On a site where the administrators are the bullies, you use shield tactics. You have to protect yourself from them. You have to keep them contained to their blog, and not let them contaminate other forums you go to.

Thus you must block them from your Facebook pages. Block them and block them again. If they stalk you to other sites, inform the administrators of the new site that so and so are stalking you. Provide links to their threats. Set you Facebook to friends only.

If you feel you need to stay on the old bad site, then fight them until they ban you. Just know all the name calling and bad things they say about you, are Not You. They do not know you.

[seesaw]

Ignore features are a great thing. Also, don't let the bullies bait you into argument. Once they realize they can't get a rise out of you, they go away. So don't respond to them. And sometimes, you just have to take a break from a site to let things normalize and cool down. Step away and do some self-care. Take a break until the trolls move on. Doesn't take long usually.

Seesaw