[Steiner of Thule]

Trying to be compassionate and caring cause I am bad at it. I am better off being cold and ruthless with my actions.

At least then things go my way. It's like trying to bash my face through a brick wall when it comes to trying to be warm and caring. Giving helpful advice.

It's just not me really.

I'm sorry and apologize to myself for trying to change who I am. A schizoid pd fool.

[healingme4me]

If anything, learned about advice giving is that internal interest sways on the side of appreciation would be nice, however that's not typically the case.

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[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

If anything, learned about advice giving is that internal interest sways on the side of appreciation would be nice, however that's not typically the case.

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Don't really understand

[healingme4me]

Internally, it's human to expect appreciation when giving advice. That's why it is a feeling of frustration when it's tossed back in your face. Hence the expressed statement of 'banging your head against a brick wall.'
When that happens who wouldn't want to revert to wanting to be 'cold and ruthless?'

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[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Internally, it's human to expect appreciation when giving advice. That's why it is a feeling of frustration when it's tossed back in your face. Hence the expressed statement of 'banging your head against a brick wall.'
When that happens who wouldn't want to revert to wanting to be 'cold and ruthless?'

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Ah yeah true. Having it thrown back in your face can be pretty frustrating.

[dysphoricspirit]

Sometimes people just don't take the time to thank someone for helping them out. Just because you don't get positive feedback or acknowledgement, it doesn't mean you are bad at being compassionate and caring. But were you ever 'cold and ruthless' though? or do you just feel that way?

It really upsets me when my friends don't show appreciation for what I do for them, sometimes they don't listen, sometimes they do and it helps them, but I can't be sure, so I end up feeling like I'm not good at being a caring friend, Like I'm just wasting my time.

Just do what you think is right Steiner, but a part of you will never stop being
'compassionate and caring' and maybe this is who you really are, and that 'cold and ruthless' person is something you want to change to, but is really not you.

[Steiner of Thule]

I am taught to be caring but also I am cold because I don't know how to really show emotions.

[The_little_didgee]

Originally Posted by Steiner of Thule

I am taught to be caring but also I am cold because I don't know how to really show emotions.

Cold is feeling no emotions at all. It is very different from the inability or difficulty in expressing an emotion that you are feeling.

Have you tried social skills training?

[Steiner of Thule]

Originally Posted by The_little_didgee

Cold is feeling no emotions at all. It is very different from the inability or difficulty in expressing an emotion that you are feeling.

Have you tried social skills training?

I appear cold to others.

No I haven't tried social skills training. Not sure what that is. How would it help and how would I get that.