[Fleury29]

I've never had a solid group, or even one solid friend I could turn to, I'm now 34, and the closest thing I've ever had to friends would be watching other people talk in chat rooms, or in real life, and wondering how it is, that I never seem to have that, when I was younger, I read a theory by some sociologist or other that if you never had a friend by the time you were 20, then you never would. I've tried all sorts of advice, but I just seem to be that person that no one wants to hang around, or talk to if there are any other options nearby. Quite often I just feel like an after thought if I'm invited anywhere, because I always wind up doing what I said earlier,. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm tired of being lonely, and wish there were something I could do to help myself out of this. I don't want to change how I feel, I want to change how things are. Is there something that I can try that hasn't been suggested by Google?

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[Thunder Bow]

The way our society is set up is lonely to begin with, thus you can not change how things are, If you like yourself, then it will be easier for you to like others. You are probably an intelligent deep thinker, thus it is harder for you to take part in trivial talk seen in most social situations.

[Angelique67]

Have you ever thought of trying something easy like a pen pal? Then you could expand into meeting people via online services. Practice is the only thing that will help. You'll have a friend and I hope it will be soon. Good luck.

[gypped]

I don't have any friends that I could turn to if I needed to talk urgently, or that I could count on to help me out. In fact, my cell phone just has my mom's # and my work # (in case I need to call in sick). No one cares about me at all.
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[Fleury29]

A good deal of my problem is that people just don't have the time, they never have time for new people in their lives. You're really interesting and all, but I just have too much to do. It's always been that way since I was a kid. One thing I was given as advice was put some effort into making a friend, well why should I do all the work just to keep someone who'd rather be doing something else anyway? I'd rather be friendless if the only way to have one was to be the one making everything work. I thought friendship was supposed to work both ways?

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[BLUEDOVE]

Yeah,but that comes AFTER one (you) makes advance to begin it!

[conflicted_confused]

I know just how you feel. I think I am the same. I have several acquaintances, but not real friends. I don't know how you get there, but just try and be happy with who you are, and make the best of the acquaintances you have. If you have some that are closer than others, try inviting some over for coffee regularly and develop friendships from that.

I wish I could change things too. But, like it has been said before, society is lonely in the way its set up. I live in a place where unless you went to school with em or grew up together, you'll not be making friends with them
Clicks are already made up, ergo I am friendless. We should start a friendless group for all of us to make friends

[stayingafloat]

If there's a friendless group, then I'll be the first to join. I'm in my mid 20s, socially inept, i can relate to TS as well. Such a group would be suitable for me.

[avlady]

that sounds like a great idea