[cluelessgal]

I've been living in the same house for the last 15 years of my life . I've seen lots of ups and downs.....but more downs....not really the fault of house, but there are 2-3 bad memories in the house I am living.

I am soooo desperate to move out to completely new city and start a new life. But financially, it would be so taxing . I'm not even sure I can afford it and in my current house, there are no rent issues.

If I think the reasons to move out - the main reasons are -

- Life has come to a standstill in my current place. I want to move to a new place and get a restart on my life.
- Also, in new city, there is no "pressure of performance", coz of my past experiences (i was bullied in school, I told myself that one day I'd have an awesome career....more successful than my bullies. Life is far away from the 'success' I imagined . While I matured up and realized that life is more than successful career, somehow this city is a reminder of those promises I made to myself and it doesn't go away. )

I just want to go far, far away to a completely different world, even if financially it would be very tough.

But arguments against moving are -
1. I am running away.
2. I am trying to look happiness in the wrong place.
3. Moving doesn't change anything, since you as a person remain the same. While any new thing in life (new job, marriage, moving) may make you happy, it's temporary and you return to your basal level of happiness.

I wish someone would share their experience/thoughts with me. Does moving really change anything emotionally??

Thank you for reading . Sorry if you're comatose.

[monkeybrains21]

It may. I found leaving and moving 7,000 miles away to be an adventure. If u so choose to move don't think of it as anything other than a new adventurist chapter of ur life. Life is all about experiences and this may be what u need to move on from stagnant. Will it always be an adventure? No but u can make it the chapter now and then maybe try another new place or take a vacation ( much cheaper than entire move). Bad things happen but u can move past them as long as ur not in danger.

[lizardlady]

I think it depends on the reason for the move. If you have a good new job and a pleasant place to live it could be a good thing. If you're moving because you think all the problems you have now will go away probably not such a good thing.

My dad was an alcoholic. During my growing up years ever couple of years he would uproot us and move to a new state trying to escape the demons in his head. Problem was they moved with us. AA has a saying "Put an arsehole on a plane in California, an arsehole gets off the plane in New York." I'm not saying you are an arsehole. I'm saying that if the problems are within you they aren't going to magically disappear if you move.

[Angelique67]

I moved from Chicago to NYC when I was young. Yes, I was running away, but it worked out well in many ways. I don't know how my life would have been different if I'd stayed, but I felt happier in NYC.

[Curry]

I moved to fifteen different schools and lived in fifty different houses going back and forth from Africa to the Philippines, Thailand, India, Korea, and Canada. My Mom is an alcoholic and alternated every year to two years to being scared she would lose my Dad who worked overseas, to missing home too much to stay away. I thought I would magically become more popular, less troubled, with each move. Things have changed later in my life, I didn't move, but I took some chances on different things. I let myself be as different, weird, out there, and as vulnerable as I want to be. I'm taking good chances, there is a whole world to be discovered of fun silly things that I was too worried about trying to be a winner to try before.

[Thunder Bow]

Let your adventure begin.

[divine1966]

I moved across the ocean in my 30s, with my kid. Well I have other family around but moved alone and lived alone ( with my young at the time daughter). I started from scratch. Yes my life is better. In every sense. It's not easier but it's better. My daughter moved twice ( I don't mean moved to a new house but changed continents), her life is better too. Sometimes you do need to move


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