[WillowWolf]

I know it's silly I'm battling it with logic but it won't stop nagging at me. I don't think random people want to hurt me, I think my friends want to bad mouth me or are and that people who invite me to hang out might harm me.
I don't know why this is. I didn't always think like this, it's kind a new thing. I know my view on the world is not that great but I've never sunk to thinking my friends wished ill of me. It almost makes me not want to spend time with them. Any advice?

[vital]

Originally Posted by WillowWolf

I know it's silly I'm battling it with logic but it won't stop nagging at me. I don't think random people want to hurt me, I think my friends want to bad mouth me or are and that people who invite me to hang out might harm me.
I don't know why this is. I didn't always think like this, it's kind a new thing. I know my view on the world is not that great but I've never sunk to thinking my friends wished ill of me. It almost makes me not want to spend time with them. Any advice?

Hi WillowWolf. I think I really understand this as it has happened to me many times in the past. When you think something like "people are wishing me ill", it may seem quite convincing to you and you may have good evidence and insightful thoughts leading you to this conclusion. Still, it may actually be true, but it may be true *because* you keep thinking that thought. "People are wishing me ill" is self-validating. If you keep thinking it, people actually WILL start wishing you ill, thus proving you correct. it's a very subtle thing, but depressives are very vulnerable to this kind of thing. See these notes for an explanation that might help:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

- vital

I agree, we attract often what we think about or dwell on. If you think more positive thoughts I have found that your aura changes and people are attracted to you. Very encouraging the link he shared above. There is a proverb that is written. It says; "as a man thinketh so he is (or becomes)." There is truth in the power of positive thinking. Blessings.

[Thunder Bow]

Trust yourself, and do not hang out with them. Find better friends than them. You gut level feelings are telling you the truth.