boyfriend is having issues with potential mental health issues

So my new primary boyfriend is having a fairly hard time with what seem to me like ADD symptoms.

He mis placed a charger to a vapor pen he owns, and he has been noticing that he is misplacing things and do things that are not really a big deal in the big sceam of things.

but in the heat of the moment it really bugs him a lot. I tried to confide in him this kind of reaction is a very common thing for people that have ADD or ADHD.

Even the feeling of that no one else feels this way, the over whelming guilt that comes about, from this is a common thing, or that he typically does not do things like this...and it seem to happen even more.

The one thing I will say that is good about it is the way he wants to deal with the issue he does want to go to see a pytraist or posibly even a therapist to better deal with this habit.

what concerned me was he just started all the sudden very heavily OCDing about the matter at hand, to try to fix the issue but instead it just made it even more trouble some for him.

He seems to be calming down from the situation, it just makes me feel really badly and concerned for him cause I do care about him and love a LOT and this is a side to him I have not really seen before.

But I think that statement is true for him as well. He is not used to having these kinds of issues and he sees them but he does not know why they are happening and he feels a loss of control over the situation. I basically took a little bit of a step back and let him deal with the situation the way he wanted to...and let him calm himself down from the situation, in his own time.

And decided to keep my judgements and opinions on the matter quiet, because I did not want to further upset him.....and possibly re direct it at me.

I wish he really did get just how much I can relate to feeling like you are going insane, how when you try to be proactive about not losing certain items how sometimes it just does not seem to feel like it matters in the long run at all.

I think he does understand my sympathy I think he is just caught up in concern for his mental health and frustrated by it right now.

and i get that feeling to its what drove me to the point of going to a therapist.

as bad as this may be he is dealing with maturely and wanting to find a way to better deal with the situation in a better way which is more then what I have seen a lot of other people do.

most people just want to flat out ignore or deny their issues which truly pisses me off.

lol god knows the human brain is a frustrating frustrating piece of machinery to deal with in ones life.

It is difficult to say what it might be causing confusion and forgetfulness.

Any of the following could contribute.

Not enough sleep
Food to infrequently
Too many carbs, sugar and alcohol
Not having a organized plan where everything is stored and sticking to it.

There is much more it could be. Getting a professional diagnoses if he is willing to go, could reveal more beneath the surface.

I think some levels of ADD/ADHD and OCD symptoms are relatively normal as long as the person can function normally. I had a compulsive-checking-everything-before-leaving episode some years ago. I would check the appliances, the lights, the water taps and the locks multiple times every time I had to leave the house. I thought it was because I was too distracted to remember that everything was in order (thus, ADD symptom). It was annoying.

And as CANDC said, there are different things that can influence the behavior. He might just have a lot on his mind and that is why he is misplacing things.

What do you mean by 'new primary boyfriend'?

lol I have had many similar issues to what the boyfriend is experincing and I hate saying to so but to a degee when I see these symptoms it kind of scares me into thinking I am going to have similar issues myself...brought on by his own anxiety.

Well what I mean new primary boyfriend is that I am a bisexual polyamorous women and I have two girlfriends that I am also dating and involved with currently, as well as two other women I am dating here in town.

So when I use the term primary for him, I mean that he is my main partner that I spend the most time with and that I also live with him.

lol the reason that I say "new" is cause a few months ago I was with a man that claimed he accepted me as bisexual as well as poly and i came to find, he was simply using that as a way for himself to get more sex if he wanted....or just get a possible threesome, out of it.

Which is not the same as excepting it, its just using it. And being poly is not someone saying they want to have excuse to have sex with any and everyone they want. Saying your are poly is stating that you can have serious committed relationships with more the one person that are based on trust, love, compassion, communication, and all kind of other emotions lol and lets not forget respect!

Is he also poly? How well does he accept that you have gfs? Does he love you?

Very few people can stay in a committed relationship and feel okay about their partner being intimate with other people. He might have strong feelings for you but he finds it hard to accept that you have feelings for more people than just him. That in turn can cause a lot of distress and lead to unusual behavior. I might be wrong, there might be something else bothering him. Or you might be right and he does have a disorder. Talk to him, see if anything is bothering him.

My problems were caused by work. When I started having serious work-related issues I exhibited a lot of strange symptoms that were previously uncommon to me, like falling asleep during seminars or regular basis, distracting myself with problems not relevant to m work, getting involved in projects not relevant to what I am doing and I started getting this growing feeling of losing my mind due to inflated anxiety.

Talk to your man, see if anything is really bothering him.

I'm not sure how this thread went from diagnosing someone else when you're not qualifed to....

....to talking about your sexuality.

It just seems odd.

Please don't diagnose someone with a MI based on forgetfulness. It could be something as simply as an unbalanced diet. Aaaaannnnddddd.....many mental illnesses involve brain fog/forgetfulness. Just because you have ADD/ADHD doesn't mean that he does. And besides, you have about 45 different disorders, so how do you know that your forgetfulness is due to ADD?