[annabellacat]

Ok,so i wanted a little favor that costs nothing to the person involved in terms of effort,time,etc. I got annoyed that I had to bribe with money to get the favor and they tried to get even more. It made me feel like this person,it's my brother,is a little baby. I felt exploited. I have been having hard times as it is and arranging a ride with someone who is my support person to help me out already felt like a little bit of work because we've had some emotional turmoils lately. Well,then my brother tries to see if he can also get rides while i'm doing the favor which is just to pick something up from where he lives. It made me so upset. Like,i have very limited time to get the favor i wanted done. Him and my mom KNOW about the emotional turmoil things going yet but have tried to exploit the issue to their own gain by trying to get money,rides,using things in my apartment,etc despite knowing things. And,I was asking my brother more to just be nice anyways. I can't be going around trying to do all these extra things right now and it doesn't feel right to me. I don't mind giving him things like a little money here or there on my own iniation because he is broke but on my own iniation i want to do it,not have it expected and be used for it. My mom is the same way and they both back and forth borrow from each other. My mom was trying to manipulate me from doing the favor even though it's important to me. My brother isn't a little baby. He is a man. He has no anxiety issues so why the heck doesnt he try to get a liscense and car? I feel like he has no pride. He lives in the suburbs too where he really needs a car or a bike at least but he's already said basically a bike isn't his style....

So,i got mad and told him in a nice way he needs to get it together because he is too old to be getting rides and with the thin ice i'm on with my support person,i can't be trying to do all this extra unneccessary things plus it's just concerning that at his age he isn't trying and just smokes weed all the time. I feel bad but our mom and dad is getting older,and i just feel he needs to make some kind of steps. Not have it all figured out,but some kind of steps. It's just really ridiculous to me that me and my friend have to go and pick up my very grown up adult brother and give him a ride. He's not a baby. It's just weird to me! Am i crazy?

[Thunder Bow]

He does have many anxiety issues. Best to let him find his own "ride".