[Fleury29]

People typically do a couple of things rather than actually talk to me:

1. they will repeat something I just said and change it just enough to hope I don't notice that it was the same thing I just said 5 minutes ago.

2. they will repeat something I said 6 years ago and pass it off as a new conversation

3 they will repeat something i said to someone else they also know 5 years ago and pretend that it's a new conversation.

4. They will talk about me to me using the name George (as an example) and funny enough this George happens to do a lot of the things I've supposedly done or said.

5. They will simply say something random, or yell at me about something that had no bearing on whatever it was that I just said.

My main question is, how do I tell people I do not like this, I want to be treated like a real person? I've stopped talking to anyone at all, because it's not worth the effort of discovering that these 5 things are all I get out of anyone. No one talks to other people like that, why do I get this? What part of my past did someone figure out this and decide it was ok to treat me like this? I don't socialize online, I don't socialize with real people, because eventually it always goes back to those 5 things I just mentioned. Always without exception. So I just gave up on the whole idea of having a normal social life.

[green0cake]

Where is this happening? Home, school, or work?

[Random]

Not sure about 1, 4 and 5 but 2 and 3 Im sure I do all the time. I couldnt tell you what Ive told people 5 or 6 years ago and I probably repeat myself over years and years several times, not on purpose.

[Fleury29]

Originally Posted by green0cake

Where is this happening? Home, school, or work?

home school work wherever.

[JustJenny]

You say people like to repeat your ideas. Can you give an example of your idea that someone has repeated 5-6 years after you said it yourself?

What about the people you have met recently? There is no way they could possibly remember something that you said 5 or 6 years ago...

My personal thing: my mother loves to dwell on memories. She would remember something that I did in my early childhood or my teenage years and would frequently bring it up. Living in the past is her thing, her choice. I personally find it rather depressing, but she finds joy in it...

[Thunder Bow]

This seems like you need to see a Therapist about this. Your post seems indicate the starting phases of Schizophrenia.

[vonmoxie]

I wonder how you can be entirely sure that the thoughts they're sharing with you aren't just similar to ones you've had. There's a saying in the art world that there are no original ideas left.. we're not all that dissimilar from one another, as humans, so unless you have truly definitive reason to think there is malice involved I think it ends up being counterproductive to assume that they're not just sharing similar things they've thought or heard elsewhere.

Also, your number one sounds like paraphrasing, a component of active listening in which one confirms we've understood the other person's comments by repeating it back to them in our own words, so although this could be annoying at times I would take it as a compliment that the person wants to achieve successful communication with you.

[Fleury29]

Originally Posted by Thunder Bow

This seems like you need to see a Therapist about this. Your post seems indicate the starting phases of Schizophrenia.

Is it schizophrenia if it is really happening? I should record a month of my conversations with people, and I guarantee you any time I try to do any kind of making conversation, it will mostly be repeats. Sorry I don't buy this, and this is why I never asked about it before, because I assumed that people would just assume I was crazy. I just want to be treated like normal people are.

[Gus1234U]

often it's not ALL the other people who are doing things to us,,, there are too many kinds of other people for them to all be treating us the same way,,,, so....
either you are hearing what you expect to hear, or you are somehow maneuvering people into doing what you expect them to,, or some other YOU involved behavior is happening.

this is apparently a completely unobserved part of self, except for the result.
it might be worth exploring how you can change, and see if that changes the behavior of others ?

best wishes with this~!

[Fleury29]

I suppose what I'm asking is how do I get people to tell me something real about themselves? When I have a conversation with someone I don't want to just hear me, I want to know something about someone else too.

[vonmoxie]

Originally Posted by Fleury29

I suppose what I'm asking is how do I get people to tell me something real about themselves? When I have a conversation with someone I don't want to just hear me, I want to know something about someone else too.

Ask them?

"So, what about you"
"Have you gone through anything similar"
"Can you share something from your own perspective"

etc. etc.

I think good conversation is sort of like a dance, one person leads, then the other.. and it's good to keep light on your feet.

[stayingafloat]

I usually dont remember things that were mentioned by myself for awhile back sometimes, but i get the feeling that people would prefer to talk about me instead of to me, and thats the kinda problem i faced as well

[Fleury29]

Originally Posted by vonmoxie

Ask them?

"So, what about you"
"Have you gone through anything similar"
"Can you share something from your own perspective"

etc. etc.

I think good conversation is sort of like a dance, one person leads, then the other.. and it's good to keep light on your feet.

I've tried that, and usually I get the shortest non commital thing I can recieve, I've almost decided to just go back to how I used to be, not talking to anyone and not bothering with people all together.

[TishaBuv]

Ask open ended questions. For example, I'll ask you:

The things you listed sound confusing to me, can you give me some specific examples?