[effervescentdays]

I tried to explain my emotions to someone whom i care about very deeply and they just got angry with me and it hurt me because they always said that i could tell them anything but now i feel alone. Has this happened to anyone else? I dont know how to handle these horrible feelings other then to just block them out like ive done my whole life

[highnrg1]

Emotions are so hard. Maybe try to write down and keep a journal of your emotions? Also, I know my emotions change so quickly sometimes. Just because the person became angry this time does not mean they will again next time, too, so don't give up after one time. Also, if we share emotions we feel with someone else and relate the emotions to THAT person (I am not saying you DID this, but just that I have done it) like when we say "YOU made me MAD when YOU…" that often does not go well because the other person just feels defensive. So maybe it will help if you think about and practice ways to share hard and negative emotions in a neutral or positive way, so the other person can hear what you're saying and sympathize… Here are some ways that have helped me do that: "I felt really mad when…" or "When ___ happened, I just felt so hurt…" Still, I often get overwhelmed and blow it and just blurt out my emotions. We're all human! Don't give up. Keep reaching out. One failed attempt does not a failure make. We learn and grow from failures. I fail all the time. But each day is a new day. Good luck!

[Clairvoyant Boy]

I`m sorry to hear that happened to you.
I do agree with Highnrg1,Writing is a great form to release your emotions.I make sure to write down how I feel or what I think,even if it's just a bunch of ranting when I`m mad that day,it helps.Depending on how it was said (or even what was said) could depend on what answer you get.
Could have also been they were in a bad mood that day?
I hope thing's get better for you

How hurtul - doubly too as they indicated to you they would be open to discussion.

Have you paused though to ask yourself the evidence that they intended to be hurtful? Could it have been a case of bad timing or not knowing what to say? To being uncomfortable or even in a bit of shock?

The ice has now been broken. Perhaps you could return to this person. Acknowledge that they screwed up while at the same time being clear about the pain they caused. Don't just talk about your own feelings but try to get them to give input about their own. It is possible they even knew they royally screwed up.

Do you have another person you can talk to. I say this because you now have the double whammy of not only the feeling or issue that you first opened up about but the hurt of having done so. Try to be careful though not to fall into the trap of bashing this first person. I would try to not even use a name when talking to the second.

I'm glaad you're airing this though. There is something soothing about getting things out.

[Wild Coyote]

Originally Posted by effervescentdays

I tried to explain my emotions to someone whom i care about very deeply and they just got angry with me and it hurt me because they always said that i could tell them anything but now i feel alone. Has this happened to anyone else? I dont know how to handle these horrible feelings other then to just block them out like ive done my whole life

Hi,

Our friends here have made some great suggestions!

I'd like to suggest we own our own emotions and not take responsibility for the emotions of others.

The fact that the other person became angry has everything to do with the other person. The anger was expressed by him/her.

Do you ask your friend to set aside time to talk?

I try to do this when I want to discuss something important with friends and family. Life seems very busy, hectic, stressful. So many people are feeling overwhelmed much of the time. Sometimes, timing is very important in discussing important matters. Our feelings are important enough to warrant undivided attention, thus I feel it's important to set aside time to focus upon what's being shared and what's being heard.

I ask people to set aside time to talk, similar to setting an appointment, so we are each/both available to interact without lots of other distractions.

I have found this has a much higher success rate than randomly sharing, especially on important topics.

Just an idea I'd like to share.

My Best to You,
WC