My mom has basically given up on being a mother to me. She refuses to trust me, ignores me when I walk into a room, treats me like dirt, calls me nothing, uses words to bring me down, and says things about me that arent true to others. :'(
Why does she treat me like this? Ive done absolutely nothing to hurt her. I just want things to be normal btw us and for her to love me.
Btw im a 15 yr old girl who was adopted and my mom treats her blood children with love but not me. And i really am trying to be a good person i just cant be myself around her so i guess she sees me as "fake."
I dont know what to do. And for those who r wondering i have told her my emotions, but she acts like she doesnt care....

[Skeezyks]

Hi DaX11: Boy... I wish I had some suggestions for you here. It must be SO difficult living day-to-day under these circumstances. I obviously don't know what's possessing your mom to treat you the way she is treating you. That is so sad. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will have some helpful suggestions to offer.

Since you're just 15, you don't really have the option to move out. And realistically I don't know if there is much you can do to change the way your mom treats you. You wrote that you've told her how you feel & she just doesn't care. I don't know how one breaks through that. If there were a counselor at school you could talk to, or if you could see a mental health therapist, that might be a good thing. At least you'd have someone to share your struggle with & perhaps get some suggestions for how to respond. It's difficult to get into that kind of detail on-line. What would be ideal would be for both you & your mom to participate in some family counseling together. But from what you've written about your situation, it sounds as though that's unlikely. Are there any other family members who could intercede on your behalf?

I'm afraid I don't know what else to suggest. But please keep posting here on PC. Simply writing about what you are experiencing, & what you're feeling, can help too...

[SvanThor]

I want to say that I am so sorry you are dealing with this. No child should have to take treatment like that from a parent.
Now, a question for you.
Is there someone else you can stay with for now? A friend or a family member? I want to also suggest perhaps trying to write a letter sharing your feelings to your mom rather than just telling her. A lot of times, letters can be more impacting than just words. I hope you can get this sorted out. I'm here if you ever need someone to confide in. Keep your head up.

Thank you so much for taking the time to write to me.... and I'll think about what you said

Thank you I'll think about the letter maybe we can send them back and forth to each other

[Aardwolf]

I had a similar upbringing, being the "spare part" of an otherwise functional family.

I eventually went to a trusted friends place for a few weeks to clear my head, and allow time for me to be away from the environment that was causing me upset and hurt.

Amazingly a couple of weeks later I met up with my adoptive parents, with a support worker in tow and talked through everything.

In short, they thought I disliked, hated and did not want to communicate with them.. they did not realise what "trauma" meant on the introduction pack... Surprisingly it actually went better after that.

It's not the definite answer to your specific problem, but it may go some way to helping you.

[Thunder Bow]

You might feel Fake because you are adopted. This kind of feeling is common with adopted children. Best to see a counselor, and learn about your real parents, and your feelings about being adopted.

Ive never met my real parents. But apparently they were forced by the government to give me up or something (i was born in europe) bc they had no idea how to take care of kids. In addition i heard my dad was very abusive and had drinking problems sooo dont know if i want to meet him even if hes still alive....

[Thunder Bow]

There is much more the the situation than what you posted here. A counselor can guide you through it emotionally.