[Nicks_Nose]

Alone, alone, all all alone
Alone on the wide, wide sea
And never a saint took pity
On my soul in agony

Samuel Taylor Coleridge

[Trippin2.0]

Yip, that's sounds about right.


Sorry to hear we are in similar boats.

[TehSmokeyMan]

Room for one more? Might as well be lonely together

[Nicks_Nose]

Time for a lonely party.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm sorry that you're feeling lonely.

[Booh]

Hello, Nicks_Nose.

Aristotle:

“Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual. Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god.”

Brene Brown:

“Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”

“I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”

Albert Schweitzer:

"We are all so much together, but we are all dying of loneliness."

Michael Bader D.M.H.:

"More than half of Americans have no one with whom they share their troubles and joys. Studies of elderly people only underline this pattern more dramatically. Loneliness is not some soft existential problem of the “worried well.” Research about the health effects of social isolation concludes that those older adults without adequate social interaction were twice as likely to die prematurely. The increased mortality risk is comparable to that from smoking. Loneliness, in fact, is about twice as dangerous as obesity."

Decades ago, I was convinced people hurt people. I decided to live solitary and isolated. Not that long ago, a therapist told me I was a social retard; Aristotle's beast.

To escape from the effects of my choices took a lot of work. I will always be a work in process. Life always is.

[Nicks_Nose]

I have no phone, no home, no job, no money, no family around. It's a difficult time for me.

[Trippin2.0]

I'm really sorry to hear that NN, I wish there was something I could do to make you feel better.

[Nicks_Nose]

The kindness expressed here is very soothing. It is much appreciated. Just being able to reach out and be heard is oddly comforting. <3

[Trippin2.0]

I'm not nearly as bad off as you, I'm surrounded by good people, but nobody seems to see what I'm going through (and they're well aware) and yet nobody seems to care enough to help out, or at least let me cry on their shoulder for a bit and vent about how overwhelmed I am. The one person who would though, is bf.... But he's working abroad.


Guess what I'm trying to say is, while I commiserate, my issues pale in comparison to yours.


You're one kickass human, don't you ever doubt that for one second.

[sadp8r]

I too can relate to that loneliness feeling it seems when I'm doing ok it doesn't bother me as much and I'm able to get things done like my art work,cleaning etc...then it seems out of nowhere or when something negative in my life happens that loneliness feeling seems to intensify and I'm not able to get anything done I become a prisoner in my own my longing for a hug from another ...on a positive note I'm so glad I joined PC cuz even though we're not physically near when I write to my friends here I realize I'm not alone because we can relate and understand each other and get through these lonely times together. Thank You

[Aardwolf]

I can relate completely to how you're feeling..

It's like the water is all the people around us - Swirling around, passing in the blink of an eye and gone. Ever changing and fluid.

[Nicks_Nose]

Thank you, Trippin. It helps alot to here such things.You're pretty awesome yourself.

[Nicks_Nose]

I guess Shania Twain says the right thing in her song "Up." Can only go up from here.

[avlady]

I know lonliness for a long time even since i was a child. it is the worst thing in my eyes that there could be.good luck

[JayKite]

If we're all on the same boat here doesn't that mean we're in fact not alone?

It's merely a cursed mind state that blinds us from seeing the truth that we're all together here!

[missbelle]

I get lonely too... Even though I stay kinda busy I still feel lonely. I have been by myself 13 years now and am 72.....
It be nice to go to dinner with a guy, a play etc........sick of driving myself LOL

[mugwort2]

Originally Posted by Nicks_Nose

I have no phone, no home, no job, no money, no family around. It's a difficult time for me.

Are there any local social services that can help you with your pragmatic issues ie . Especially no home. Where are you staying. Are you writing your comments on a laptop? How are you surviving? I'm quite concerned.

[mugwort2]

Known the feeling of lonliness too. I think reading no home etc. you may want to consider what is your first priority. Just a suggestion. How long you been like this? Kind of figure you own a laptop. Or sitting in the public library. How are you surving?

[Nicks_Nose]

Mugwort2: I am sleeping on a couch at a distant cousin's house. I am communicating on a kindle fire. I moved to this province a month ago and Social Services won't help me until I have been here for three months. Until that period has passed, I am not a resident of this province and don't qualify for help. Can't get a place until I get a job. I am missing my fiance while I seek work. I know this won't be forever, but at this time, it feels overwhelming.

[TehSmokeyMan]

Oh, wow... Talk about government red tape not helping here... I can imagine this being tough, to put it mildly

[Nicks_Nose]

On a positive note, I am now part-time employed. I just need a second part-time job to meet the costs. Then I can find a place to live with my fiance. I am missing him terribly.

[avlady]

Lonliness is the worst feeling in the world

[TehSmokeyMan]

Nice to see that there is something positive now. I hope it helps a bit against the loneliness...

[pktrain]

Originally Posted by Trippin2.0

I'm not nearly as bad off as you, I'm surrounded by good people, but nobody seems to see what I'm going through (and they're well aware) and yet nobody seems to care enough to help out, or at least let me cry on their shoulder for a bit and vent about how overwhelmed I am. The one person who would though, is bf.... But he's working abroad.


Guess what I'm trying to say is, while I commiserate, my issues pale in comparison to yours.


You're one kickass human, don't you ever doubt that for one second.

Some suggestions - try developing some hobby, read write a blog, listen to music.. visit a friend and talk about anything , write a diary