[Ladytmt]

If one person degrades you do they respect anyone else?

So in a nutshell. An ex narcissistic sociopath i was seeing conned me into being an unknowing other woman. He did this for months but my gut told me something wasn't right. So upon digging he had a fiancé. After finding this out I confronted him and i messaged his fiancé to tell her what he'd done to me. So then I didn't hear from him for months then he comes back and says he isn't happy with her and wants me. But in the meantime it seemed like He wanted me to embrace the fact that he's now married and continue on in a lie of a relationship that he created where i first thought i was the love of his life but because i've found out about a fiancé /wife it seems like he wants me to be ok as his side woman and it seems he wants me to behave by not telling his wife again. As if to say keep this secret. This man caused me so much pain and to hear him say this crushed me. If he had been upfront from day one about seeing someone I would not have gotten involved but he never told me and now he wants me to "play" along which i will not do.

Is this his way of acknowledging his disrespect towards me by wanting me to allow it to continue? He wants me to stay this secret and keep his wife in the dark? Is this his way of saying he respects her and not me!?? Please help!! How did i get tagged undeserving of respect when he was the one who lied???

[nicoleflynn]

He doesn't respect, himself, his wife or YOU. He doesn't respect HER, or he wouldn't be lying and cheating.

[Unrigged64072835]

I don't think a person who disrespects someone can actually be respectful to someone else. They may act respectful, but there is an underlying fear about it. If he was being respectful he wouldn't lie or cheat like he does. That would go against his morals.

[Ladytmt]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

I don't think a person who disrespects someone can actually be respectful to someone else. They may act respectful, but there is an underlying fear about it. If he was being respectful he wouldn't lie or cheat like he does. That would go against his morals.

I agree. Seems he didn't respect me from day one as he wasn't up front with me as if i had "disrespect me" written on my forehead. What gives him the right? He "acts" so well that I've questioned everything that he has ever said and made me feel.