[mymartianromance]

So, I'm 19 and still living with my parents. My dad insists we must have the news on when we eat dinner. But, he screams at the tv while watching the news. So I decided not to eat because he's been yelling at the news for the last week. I sit in the seat right next to him. Which caused a huge dilemma that caused him to throw things and cut the internet off. Then I got blamed for ruining dinner by my mom. Mind you she's the one who told him that's the reason why I wasn't eating.

I know that I need to be out soon. But, I'm currently jobless and not too many places are going to be hiring right now. Also, due to the fact that I'm 19, I can't go crash with a friend because all my friends either live at home themselves or in a college dorm. So, now I just decided to hide on the floor in a room in the dark crying about how I should have just sucked up the screaming even though it hurts my ears and gives me a headache instead of just skipping dinner over it.

[Skeezyks]

Hello mymartianromance: I'm sorry you're caught in this dilemma. It sounds similar to some of the dinnertime experiences I had growing up many years ago. I don't have any suggestions for you here. I just wanted to leave a note letting you know I read your post & sending you my best wishes...

[Leyla]

No offence but it's your dad who needs to grow up. Yelling at the tv while eating dinner. In my house or at least when I was growing up there was no TV allowed on while we were eating. That should be a time to interact with each other. And it wasn't right of your mom to blame you either.

So don't feel bad or take it to heart. Sometimes it's the adults who need to grow up. No fault of your own.

Take care

[handheart]

Stop crying and start searching for solutions .You must go away from this medium because it makes you feel bad and you atract more of it .You see this life had a secret what you feel you receive .If all day you complain about bad things you will receive more from universe .Start by thinking how you can change your life ,maybe a job maybe a course etc solutions are

First, can you forgive yourself for reacting as you did? Then, can you forgive your father for yelling at the news during dinner? My father died 14 years ago and I wish I could have him yelling at the news through dinner. I'd settle for us yelling at each other. Come to think of it, I'm pretty sure that I just yelled at the news throughout most of dinner. There's a lot to yell at, especially if you're an angry person like me, your father and my father. Not to make light of your discomfort; it must be hard, but you won't be living in their house forever, and you won't have him forever, or your mom to blame you for ruining dinner by reacting to him. Make a long-term plan to evolve beyond your present living arrangements, and make it happen. I'm sorry that you're in a stressful situation, and I wish you the best.

Originally Posted by mymartianromance

So, I'm 19 and still living with my parents. My dad insists we must have the news on when we eat dinner. But, he screams at the tv while watching the news. So I decided not to eat because he's been yelling at the news for the last week. I sit in the seat right next to him. Which caused a huge dilemma that caused him to throw things and cut the internet off. Then I got blamed for ruining dinner by my mom. Mind you she's the one who told him that's the reason why I wasn't eating.

I know that I need to be out soon. But, I'm currently jobless and not too many places are going to be hiring right now. Also, due to the fact that I'm 19, I can't go crash with a friend because all my friends either live at home themselves or in a college dorm. So, now I just decided to hide on the floor in a room in the dark crying about how I should have just sucked up the screaming even though it hurts my ears and gives me a headache instead of just skipping dinner over it.

Grew up in a violent home. It takes a lot of time to get over that. Try to move. I did. I moved out of state for college. But then I came home.

Maybe a roommate?

[mugwort2]

Okay no idea what your situation is in terms of leaving. Can you pay for any online college courses. There are some fully accredited colleges that offer online courses toward a degree. I suspect there are business schools there too. Did you type your post on a public computer or one at your home?

[Thunder Bow]

This seems to be controlling behaviour. He is trying to get his way, like a little boy. I hope you can find a way to get away from this. Eat dinner in your room. Or you can join him, and throw your dinner at the TV too.

[ThatAnxiousGuy]

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. Like someone mentioned previously: your dad has to find a way to grow up and act more mature for his age. If he has blamed you for anything in the past it's not because of you. It definitely does sound like he's trying to control your emotions by putting all the blame on you and none on himself.

I hope things get better for you. I'm sorry that I can't think of any solutions, but I read your post and did care about the words you said. I wish you the best in whatever happens in the future.