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I'm finding this the hardest thing to cope with - feeling invisible.
Normally I'm a socially outgoing person so it is not due to being shy or introverted. But I continue to have situations where I feel like I am not there. I recently attended a wedding and in the greeting line the greeter (who I know very well), did not greet me. There has never been any hard feelings with this person or anything. I found it very odd, he greeted the person in front of me and behind me and I stood there feeling embarrassed. I finally said hi and tried not to get in a tizz over it. I was actually in a great mood, it was a gorgeous sunny day and I was wearing a dress that I felt like a knockout in. But then... Then at the exact same wedding it happened again. There was a circle of people I was standing in the midst of and an introduction of the groom's father was being made by one of my friends. I was the only person in the group she did not introduce to him. I felt as if I was having a panic attack. She has been friends with me for decades and I was standing right next to her. I almost cried as I felt I was not included. I was too stunned to introduce myself. I looked at my husband helplessly hoping he noticed and would say something, but alas he did not. When the group broke up I told my husband I want to go home. I explained to him that this happened two times in the last half hour and I feel ill. I reminded him of other instances where the same thing happened. I am not coping with this at all. I feel inadequate and rejected which is worsening my depression. Has anyone else felt this way? What could be happening to cause this? |
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#2
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Could be envy towards you. You were looking and feeling to good for them to handle.
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#3
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I don't like the feeling of being overlooked. I still remember a holiday gathering last year where the host hugged everyone as they were leaving except me. That didn't feel good. I think at a wedding (or a party) it is easy for people to get caught up in the event, get distracted by all the activity and lose track of people right next to them.
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I get that feeling. It's very upsetting to be the one experiencing it. There are times when I am talking to people and then I realize they aren't listening to anything I'm saying. I will test my perceptions by saying things that don't make sense. I'll even say things like, 'I'm not sure why I'm still talking because I know you aren't listening. I'll just walk away and you won't even notice.' And they don't. Even if we were the only 2 people in the room.
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I do know the feeling, the experience. It hurts.
Last time, I was in a room and two members of my family were talking about something clearly related to me, but they talked as if I wasn't in the room...felt weird, and lonely.
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"...don't say Home / the bones of that word mend slowly...' marie harris |
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I know part of my sensitivity to feeling left out was due to my upbringing. I was the black sheep of the family and received very little attention. Of course when I did it was trouble ![]() But feeling ostracized is a terrible. Even if you don't particularly want a hug from the person doling them out, getting passed over is awful. Thank you for understanding, and here is a hug ![]() |
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#8
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I can relate to this feeling.. I'm sorry you're going through this
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Hi,
Unfortunately there are people with mild aspergers who are not aware how others feel about them and how they regard them. I'm one of those. Some people may feel superior to me and I have'nt the faintest idea! I'm also sometimes ignorant of how others feel. I have only realised this in my late years. Up to then I just moodled on and thought every one was good to me! So I would not be hurt if I were you. Just carry on normal! |
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I have sat through uncomfortable exchanges where it seemed people were talking around or over me. Since it was drilled into me as a child to be seen and not heard, I don't tend to stand up for myself when this takes place. But I hear you and I appreciate what you say ![]() |
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It's the feeling of parents talking about a child standing next to them expecting the child not to understand what is being discussed - but they do. While I wouldn't wish that feeling upon anyone, thank you for understanding ![]() |
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It sure helps to know that I'm not alone though. Thank you for understanding, ![]() |
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![]() I will definitely keep this in the forefront the next time I'm feeling "not there" by someone's actions. I hope that it will help me carry on and moodle (I love that!) ![]() |
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