[mikewest]

Have left Narcissist and need advice.

[Hetty]

What do you need advice about?

[QueenCopper]

How can we help you?

[eyesclosed]

I can tell you from my experience you have not left because they will be in your life somehow. Be ready they come after you they need there fix. File a restraining order good job get far far away

[BrazenApogee]

Yes, I have escaped narcissist, no contact is best defense. Strict boundaries will help protect you, if they come back with their games (and they will) be prepared with a firm wall. Look up the term "gaslighting" and how to deal with it, I have found it is a narcissist's favorite tactic. Name their games and they can't play you anymore. Remember: "you can't expect a tiger to turn into a vegetarian if you keep throwing it steaks," don't feed them.

[MickeyCheeky]

Not sure what advice you want.. but if he's a narcisisst, I think you did the best thing by dumping him.. wish you good luck for your life

[Patagonia]

I'm glad to hear you left. I know you were in pain

Not a lot of information provided. What is your intended goal? Perhaps then we can offer you some advice.

Is it achieving a clean break? You need to stand firm in this case, cutting off all contact. Are children involved? That really complicates things and our answers.

We want to help but without further information of what you want it is difficult to do so.

I have a narcissist friend, I know how this can be. He's a very fun person to be with, but has that downside.
I'd leave and go away from him here and there. With time I found out the best way to deal with him is dosing my interference with him, and keeping myself busy with more important things.

I walked away. It was hard, but I started completely fresh. I had to make a whole new support network of acquaintances and friends. One of the things about a narcissist is they are very charismatic, manipulating, and commanding. They tend to surround themselves with gleeful adoring 'fans'. Thus, when I left, I left everybody. That was the hardest part about running away.

[BrazenApogee]

I've had the same experience in having to leave my social network to get away. It has been very hard. Building a new social network is slow and difficult. The damage goes deep, but it is well worth it to walk away.