Do u hate your mother

Theisonews · Jan 14, 2017 at 04:24 AM

I do. She made my child hood suck

Lost_in_the_woods · Jan 15, 2017 at 08:22 PM

Mine too.

JustJace2u · Jan 15, 2017 at 08:35 PM

I hated her when I was younger, not because she was abusive or anything, I just was rebellious. Now she's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without her most days.

SgtRock · Jan 17, 2017 at 09:32 AM

No, she's my best friend.

Unrigged64072835 · Jan 17, 2017 at 03:39 PM

I don't hate her. I was just disappointed in her life choices. She died 6 years ago, so I miss her sometimes.

bornunderabadsign · Jan 17, 2017 at 05:53 PM

I have a weird relationship with my mother. She is more like an aunt or maybe a bossy older sister. I love her dearly but I also hate some of the things she has done or not done in the past.

Jan 17, 2017 at 06:00 PM

I used to think I hated my Mother until I worked through my childhood in therapy.I was even able to have compassion for her and forgive her.

She's not in my life,but I can finally say that I do love her.I guess I always have but just wasn't able to feel it because of all the hurt,pain and anger I was holding onto.

Jan 18, 2017 at 10:35 AM

I loathe her and blame her for every single ill that I have faced. She was a mental abuser and set me up to allow myself to be victimized right into adulthood. I resent the woman a great deal for never being a mother to me.

Verity81 · Jan 18, 2017 at 12:52 PM

Yes, and I am also afraid of her as she abused me. I have gone no contact with her for over 6 years, changed city, telephone number......

avlady · Jan 18, 2017 at 02:03 PM

i love my mom, she's my best friend too.

Lolina · Jan 19, 2017 at 12:55 PM

I don't love her but I don't hate her either. She is not a good person for me and she has nothing positive to bring me. I understand that she didn't have a great childhood and I feel sometimes compassion for her as she did not have an easy life. I don't think she knows what love is and she never really grew up and mature. I realized how lucky I am that I left home young.

zijax · Jan 19, 2017 at 01:48 PM

I do not like her but I feel sorry for her at the same time.

SgtRock · Jan 19, 2017 at 03:03 PM

Can't take this thread, I'm out.

Teanne · Jan 21, 2017 at 01:43 PM

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Originally Posted by justafriend306

I loathe her and blame her for every single ill that I have faced. She was a mental abuser and set me up to allow myself to be victimized right into adulthood. I resent the woman a great deal for never being a mother to me.

I feel the same exact way about my mother. I feel like I didn't have a mother. I just consider her my biological mother. She emotionally, verbally, and physically abused me as a child. She was never there for me. I have so much anger toward her, and I've never been able to work through it. The ironic thing is that I am now her caregiver.

This is definitely not a healthy situation.

Cat_Lover_58 · Jan 23, 2017 at 05:29 PM

I dislike mine much of the time. I love her, she's my mom. She is the MOST selfish and self-centered person I've ever known. Sometimes I see where she is just a shell of a person now. She's 81 y/o and is alone.

yakmom · Jan 25, 2017 at 01:58 PM

Not at all. She died in 1983. I was 22. I found out later that the day she found out she was pregnant with me, she hid behind the door of the kitchen and cried. Thank You Dear Aunt So and So. Too late to ask her. Rationally speaking, being poor in the South and having 5 children already, why would she want a 6th? I know she loved me. She had a favorite and my sister next to me and I were not that person so... We were never, ever abused in any way. I could never hate her. I know some moms are dragons.

Solrock · Jan 26, 2017 at 12:15 AM

While I don't hate her, recently I have become aware that she's the cause of much of my anxiety. She's also, to some extent, why I have trouble interacting with people. Why I doubt myself.

I can not talk about my emotions with her. Never have been able to and it wasn't until last fall that I learned that doing so is dangerous. I tell her I'm depressed, she will twist it around and tell me I should feel bad for feeling that way. I've once come to her with feelings of depression, and left thinking thoughts of self-harm.

Despite all that she's not a horrible person so I can't say I hate her, but I'll probably never be as close to her as I used to be.

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Theisonews Account Suspended Member Since Aug 2016 Location: Florida Posts: 34 8	Jan 14, 2017 at 04:24 AM #1 I do. She made my child hood suck
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Lost_in_the_woods Grand Poohbah Community Liaison Member Since Dec 2013 Location: Brokedown Palace Posts: 1,625 10 2,917 hugs given	Jan 15, 2017 at 08:22 PM #2 Mine too. __________________ "The woods are lovely, dark, and deep But I have promises to keep And miles to go before I sleep And miles to go before I sleep"
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JustJace2u Grand Poohbah Member Since May 2016 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,928 8 1,346 hugs given	Jan 15, 2017 at 08:35 PM #3 I hated her when I was younger, not because she was abusive or anything, I just was rebellious. Now she's my best friend and I don't know what I'd do without her most days. __________________ Dx: BP2 and MDD Current meds: 100mg Wellbutrin; 200mg Lamictal; 400mg Seroquel at night; Xanax 1mg/PRN; 100mg/PRN Trazodone at night for insomnia Diagnosed in May 2016
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Unrigged64072835 Legendary Member Since Oct 2010 Location: Under the noise floor Posts: 18,579 (SuperPoster!) 13 11.8k hugs given	Jan 17, 2017 at 03:39 PM #5 I don't hate her. I was just disappointed in her life choices. She died 6 years ago, so I miss her sometimes.
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bornunderabadsign Member Member Since Dec 2016 Location: Southeastern USA Posts: 334 7 179 hugs given	Jan 17, 2017 at 05:53 PM #6 I have a weird relationship with my mother. She is more like an aunt or maybe a bossy older sister. I love her dearly but I also hate some of the things she has done or not done in the past. __________________ "If I'm going to have a past, I prefer it to be multiple choice." ~ Joker ~ "You are only as stupid as you let yourself be." ~ Anon ~
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Anonymous37908 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 17, 2017 at 06:00 PM #7 I used to think I hated my Mother until I worked through my childhood in therapy.I was even able to have compassion for her and forgive her. She's not in my life,but I can finally say that I do love her.I guess I always have but just wasn't able to feel it because of all the hurt,pain and anger I was holding onto.
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justafriend306 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 18, 2017 at 10:35 AM #8 I loathe her and blame her for every single ill that I have faced. She was a mental abuser and set me up to allow myself to be victimized right into adulthood. I resent the woman a great deal for never being a mother to me.
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Verity81 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2014 Location: uk Posts: 1,459 10 202 hugs given	Jan 18, 2017 at 12:52 PM #9 Yes, and I am also afraid of her as she abused me. I have gone no contact with her for over 6 years, changed city, telephone number...... __________________ Verity
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avlady Wise Elder Community Liaison Member Since Jan 2013 Location: angola ny Posts: 9,794 (SuperPoster!) 11 28.8k hugs given	Jan 18, 2017 at 02:03 PM #10 i love my mom, she's my best friend too.
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zijax Grand Member Member Since Mar 2016 Location: appalachia Posts: 921 8 12 hugs given	Jan 19, 2017 at 01:48 PM #12 I do not like her but I feel sorry for her at the same time.
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Cat_Lover_58 Grand Poohbah Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,651 9 124 hugs given	Jan 23, 2017 at 05:29 PM #15 I dislike mine much of the time. I love her, she's my mom. She is the MOST selfish and self-centered person I've ever known. Sometimes I see where she is just a shell of a person now. She's 81 y/o and is alone.
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